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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We were both pretty drunk, met that night. He had dark hair, was wearing a denim shirt, showed me his tattoos. I saw him across the room and thought he was cute.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I saw him at a Festivus party – look that up, it’s pretty dumb. My friend brought me there, so I didn’t know anyone really, and resorted to drinking some beers really quickly at the beginning to feel okay. After getting tipsy enough and chatting with some strangers, I caught this guy looking at me and told my outgoing/social friend that I liked him. Immediately, she’s up and over talking to him (I guess they knew each other?) and she brings him over. We talked for a long while, about our families, our tattoos, going to Catholic school, and music. He was super impressed that I knew who Ornette Coleman was. My friend texts me that he has a girlfriend. Damn, I wasn’t getting that vibe. More drinking, airing of grievances, feats of strength. I don’t really know how it happened but we decided I was going home with him, said goodbye to the friend I came with, got in his car, and then we went to a diner and ate shitty drunk food. Lots of laughing, a few comments about how my boyfriend could break up with me, whatever. We go back to his place and he kept apologizing that it was small. I thought it was fine.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took my shoes and tights off and immediately we laid down on his bed together. He told me his mom and sister were home so we had to be quiet. Okay. We started making out, I asked him to take off his shirt, I kissed his neck. He told me I was beautiful. I asked if he wanted his dick sucked, he didn’t say anything but just pulled down his pants. After that (who knows how long it was – drunk time ya know) I climbed on top of him and continued kissing and grinding on him. I told him that I had my period. He said that he would have gone down on me if I didn’t. I honestly wasn’t expecting that we would have sex because of that, but it happened. He moved my panties aside and entered me without a condom, which would have freaked me out a lot more if I wasn’t drunk. I told him not to come inside me. I must have been kind of loud, he kept shushing me and I had to really control myself to reel it in. He felt good, he called me baby a lot. I liked that. The way he moved my body was very gentle and fluid. He almost came, but pulled out and by that point I think we were both tired and just fell asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning I woke up with a nasty hangover, of course. We both did. I think I was like, naked, which was kind of awkward since his mom/sister were walking around. Sometime in the night he pulled out the couch from the bed to sleep on because we were both really hot. When I woke up he got me some water. We had to wait for his sister to come back to he could take me home, and I was feeling so shitty I just wanted to go home at that point. He was nice about it, said it was okay if I was grumpy. We cuddled for a little bit on the couch before he drove me home. Had to stop once so I could throw up. Our goodbye was sweet, albeit a little weird. He enthusiastically gave me a big hug, told me it was great to meet me and that we would see each other at a show probably. I wanted to ask and see if he’d be down to hang out again but decided not to. I think he’s a very sweet and kind person, and I hope/expect we can have a friendly relationship in the future whether that means banging again or not.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. Mentioned it briefly to my mom, though not in glorious detail.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’ve never hooked up with anyone like this before, and it was pretty easy and made me feel good about myself and showed me that I could have casual sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I should have made him use a condom. Also, navigating the emotions that came afterward about why he didn’t text me, if we would hang out again, etc.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m glad that I have had this experience, and I was caught a little off-guard by some of the sad emotions I felt afterward. Reminding myself that I did this for me, boys are nice and all but feeling empowered, worthy, and desirable is more important to me right now.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really like how you’re given the chance to be as detailed/descriptive as you want. This is important – sharing these stories is the beginning in making others see that casual sex is fine and normal and okay.
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