by Jay
Gender: Female
Age: 24

Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Texas
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Speech Language Pathologist
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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I Love College

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a college buddy’s friend. I had just met him that night through my guy friend I was interested in. We were drinking and playing beer-pong in the dormitory. I had obviously never hooked up with him before and he was my first (and only) one-night stand.  I was impartial to him as far as personality went and felt he was moderately attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were drinking and playing games. We started playing King’s Cup. A dare led to a kiss, which in turn led to more. He initiated the dare.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup was boring, “vanilla” vaginal sex. I felt guilty and ashamed. He was an awful lover, who to be quite honest didn’t measure up. He orgasmed, but I did not. He tried to please, but miserably failed. He wasn’t a jerk, but had poor social skills when romancing. We didn’t talk and it ended with me getting up and crashing in another bed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom. We didn’t discuss anything, but I demanded we use protection. I was also on the pill. I later got tested and was clean. I wanted to know for my own peace of mind. I don’t “hookup” typically and had only ever had intimate relationships with serious boyfriends.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was drunk and aroused. I also wanted to retaliate after my friend hooked up with my crush.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were drinking. I had probably 6 drinks and he had a few beers.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt guilty and ashamed. I avoided him and I’m glad I’ll never see him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends were informed. They were passive.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, I feel immense regret. I’m now married to a wonderful man, who albeit was promiscuous prior to our marriage. I wish we had shared our intimacies solely with one another. I don’t believe sex is simply casual. I gave a part of myself to those men that I can never get back.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? There was nothing good about that hookup. It was awkward seeing him around school after. I disapprove of casual sex for myself and others who want to remain pure or who see sex as an intimate connection.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

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