What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
I Was Just Curious About His Job
How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? First of many
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? James is around 6’3″, athletic, with fair skin and lots of freckles. He has an attractive face and a nice voice. He is really smart, confident, and pretty adventurous. He’s about my age and has a lot of qualities I’d like to see in the person I eventually end up with.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking on tinder about his job, and he suggested we meet up. I don’t particularly enjoy messaging, so meeting him seemed like a good idea. My goal was to pick his brain regarding his job and I wasn’t really expecting anything to come out of it.
We met up for a drink at a bar and it started off awkward because I was hungover to the point where I could hardly string a sentence together. It got better after I had a drink, and I got my wits back about me. My curiosity regarding his work was mainly satisfied but I still enjoyed chatting with him, so we ended up exploring a few different bars around the area.
Eventually, we both got pretty tipsy and started brushing knees and touching hands as we talked. We had a couple of pretty chaste kisses at the bar just before closing time. Once outside, we made out properly. I could tell he enjoyed it as much as I did. I don’t remember exactly at what point we decided to have sex, but I think he was the one to suggest it. We then walked to my place, talking and holding hands along the way.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made it to my room where I had a pile of clean clothes on my bed, so we joked about how I should’ve been better prepared. After I shoved the clothes into the wardrobe, we made out again and rubbed against each other for a bit before taking our clothes off. It gets a bit blurry from there, so the next thing I remember was me being on top and him digging his nails into my back. He then sat up and flipped me over while still inside me, which I found incredibly hot.
I really enjoyed him being rough – he was thrusting really hard, pulling my hair, biting and choking me. He was also great at stroking my ego, telling me how cute and smart I am, how good I felt, and how hot it was that I was into it. We went through a few different positions. I came after he put my legs on his shoulders and pounded me really hard. We then got back into missionary, he fucked me some more and then pulled out before cumming onto my stomach.
I’m not sure how long we were going at it for, but my rough guess would be a couple of hours. I cleaned myself up and we cuddled and chatted for a bit, mentioning how the kinky side wasn’t something either of us usually revealed on the first date, but how it was fine considering we enjoyed ourselves. We then had a shower, cuddled, and went to sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I can’t remember if we had sex in the morning but he messaged me later that day. We started to hook up regularly. At first I didn’t expect it to go beyond casual sex, but we ended up really liking each other and dated for about a year. We broke up because neither of us could say ‘I love you’ to each other and we didn’t see it going any further.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke to most of my friends about it eventually, everyone reacted pretty well.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We had great chemistry and it’s still the best first hookup that I had so far.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It set a pretty high standard for first sex quality, and I still haven’t experienced anything quite like it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? At the time I assumed it was my gateway to casual sex, but I ended up being wrong about it. It definitely gave me more confidence in the fact that I can get casual sex if I want it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I didn’t realize it at the time, but this hookup was a proof that I enjoy sex significantly more if I have an emotional and intellectual connection with my partner, even if it’s newly formed.
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