by Elaine

Gender: Female
Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Virginia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Sales Rep
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Iced Bong

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, dark hair, best smile ever! I knew my partner very well! His ex girlfriend and I shared an apt once. She and I were not very close and they hadn’t been dating for years by this point. He and I ran in similar circles of friends at college. Our friendship was flirty, lots of sexual innuendos thrown around, and honest. I considered him (and still do) a very good friend. We had talked about hooking up before this so we knew there was a sexual chemistry and attraction between us.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had made plans to hang out and smoke some weed. We had both made sexual comments to each other and knew that we were most likely going to have sex that night.  

We sat on his couch talking about the show we were watching and he asked if I had ever inhaled someone’s smoke before (he would take a rip of the bong then blow the smoke into my mouth). I thought it was hilariously smooth so I went for it. Once we started kissing there was no going back, there was definitely electricity.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral on both ends, willingly given and received. Vaginal sex with multiple positions. Neither of us orgasm’d, however. We were extremely after 30 minutes of such heavy activity. This was not a sexual encounter where one person laid down and the other received. We got rough and threw each other around a bit.  

There was a lot of laughter, and a lot of attention was paid towards each others wants.  

He was a very good lover, one of the best and one of my favorites. 

We talked about a lot of friends, the TV shows we both love, music and porn (how ridiculous it can get).

It ended with him asking if I would stay over and promising to make me breakfast. I was worried I would develop feelings outside of our friendship if I stayed and cuddled with him so I declined.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms, I was on birth control…we both had not had issues with STI’s

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Natural attraction and physical need of release.  Also, a lot of curiosity of how we would be together.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, a couple rips of a bong.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hooked up a couple more times. Still great friends. I could see us possibly dating at some point in our lives, just not yet.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We both were open about it with our friends. My friends were not very surprised.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was the enjoyment beyond the physical aspect of the hook up, it is hard to have such a complete experience with most people you decide to hook up with. Typically you are too busy worrying about how you are doing/acting/look. Worst? Not getting off. I find myself being more relaxed around men I decide to have sex with because it makes the whole experience A LOT more enjoyable.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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