by JB

Gender: Male
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Mexico
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student – Writer
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: … Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Gay
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Ich Liebe Dich

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Do you recall the saying: He is the kind of guy you want to marry, not the one you want as your boyfriend (lover)? That’s Markus: The lovely decent well behaved guy that bored the hell out of me.
Is that a bad thing? No… the thing is, we weren’t compatible. So why did I hook up with him? Well for starters he is 6’4″, blue eyed and blonde. He is also sweet… too sweet.
I met Markus through a common friend -they are both Austrian and were doing and internship – who introduced us. I knew he is gay, because our friend told me. It was really the plan, you know? You are both gay and single, let’s see what happens. I’ve never had a relationship, so sometimes I feel alone and needy -I try not to and most of the time I do not- and when I saw the opportunity and I saw that he is not ugly -not quite my type but still- I said to myself: go ahead, let’s see what happens. And after a few drinks and some dancing together, it happened.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in a club with some other friends and we were having fun. I was dancing with some (female) friends, and we started looking at each other. Suddenly we were dancing and we didn’t care what anybody said. We both felt attracted to each other, and we knew we are -even under the circumstances- very responsible with the topic of sex. It is something we do with very specific people -and not regularly- because we want to take care of ourselves.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to the apartment and we had oral sex for the first time. We started kissing and touching each other. I like to kiss a man all over his body. From head to toes. I jerked him off and did oral sex for a while. Then he did the same. That first night we didn’t have intercourse.  We just came and hugged until we fell asleep. In the morning we repeated the process. Still no intercourse because we didn’t have any condoms. I probably tasted his cum off his belly. During the two weeks we kept in contact, we saw each other 4 times. Every time we saw each other we had oral sex. We couldn’t keep our hands still. Every time we had some kind of sexual behavior was very pleasing. I enjoyed it.

The only time we had intercourse -third time in my life- was in a hostel. I shared a room, he had a small bed, and we were in a small bohemian town, so it was fun. The charming hostel was very colorful and the private bedroom was larger than I thought. It had a balcony with a bench, a hammock, and a king size bed. We started in the balcony, overlooking the jungle. He sat on the bench and I sat on his lap. We started making out and after a while we went on to the hammock, but it’s too tricky, so after a few minutes we went to the bed. He kissed and licked my entire back making me arch. That night the tip of his tongue was magical. I squirmed like a mad man. We fingered each other -Markus was the top but he is also a bottom- and then we had intercourse. It was very pleasing. Each of us had two or three orgasms that night. We talked about the decor of the room, our time in that bohemian town, and old lovers. We also discussed our relationship, and that night I gave myself permission to be with someone, and try what’s next. Not to be excessively picky and neurotic as I am used to being. It didn’t work in the end, because I need a man with stronger character and personality.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We talked about previous experiences and points of view regarding sex. We are very similar and we haven’t had many partners. We used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to have sex because it had been a long time since the last time. I wanted to feel a little bit of intimacy even if it is a fantasy. I wanted that connection again.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? The first time there was alcohol involved. There was none afterwards.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I told Markus that it was over -whatever “it” was- after two weeks. It was over because we are not entirely compatible and I am looking for something else. I told him that it doesn’t matter how much we want something, sometimes it doesn’t happen. That I wanted us to be friends and act like the adults we are. 
We saw each other a month later and it was totally fine. I was glad to see him and see that we were able to handle the situation very well. We are just friends now, and I wish him the very best.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? All my friends in the town knew about us. They saw us together at parties, and restaurants. They were very supportive and cool about it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I don’t regret it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is that I had some awesome moments with an incredible person that I call now my friend. There weren’t bad moments. I learned about myself as a partner and as a sexual being. Sexuality can be difficult sometimes, but I learned to enjoy myself more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? This was my last hookup, three months ago. I have more stories, and if I tell them you can see similarities, because I still have some of the same ideas, but I’ve grown immensely since those, and that’s what it’s all about… growing.

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