by Vita

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: Indian
Current location: Belgium
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night-stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Hot guy, no feelings, trustworthy, impulsive but unbelievably behaved and not original.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Meet on the street, no planning involved on my side. Guy instigated it of course.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Nothing special, just simply sex without even taking all of the clothes off, didn’t talk about a lot, can’t be a lover when you have no feelings involved.. he behaved kindly and asked me whether everything was ok. Whether it was ok that he came and earlier whether he should quit when it was hurting me.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t, he of course did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? No reason not to, curious about how it would be to go to bed with someone without having any feelings for this person.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No alcohol or drugs involved, although the guy thought I was drunk I hadn’t had a sip of alcohol and went with his idea.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Nothing he helped me climb the wall (considering we did it in a park at night which was closed) and I didn’t feel comfortable walking with him and his friends, considering his friends knew what I had done and might look differently at me (as a whore). I totally didn’t like the idea. No hopes/expectations, just that if I ever end up in a nasty situation and he is nearby + able to help me, he will. 
I did make out with another guy afterwards, just to get rid of the taste of making out with the first guy. I think that kind of put him off, the second guy deleted me from facebook somehow 😉

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends, reacted stunned, ok, laughed a lot, just because 🙂

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual, for my partner a wanted one

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really, I am happy to know that I can have sex without feelings and that it always will remain my own choice and I now know when I have feelings for someone and when not. Sometimes when you make out with someone, you really don’t know whether it’s the lust or the love, now I am kind of better at distinguishing those.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing: the guy actually came (I was afraid I wasn’t capable of making guys come)
worst: It left me quite.. feelingless/ not emotionally involved with many people for a long time, but whether that had happened before or after this hookup is still to be determined.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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