by Tony

Gender: male
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: white
Location: Indianapolis
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Aviation
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

In Another Guy’s Bed…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Jamie was an older girl who typically dressed in her favorite band t shirt and wore torn up jeans and flip flops, even when it was raining. 

We met one night through a mutual friend back when I was selling weed to anyone who’d buy it from me.

I didn’t really have much of an opinion of her. She seemed pretty cool, but a little too open about things. 

She flashed a small group of people (including myself) the first day I met her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were partying at a friends house, and decided to go smoke in her friends bedroom. 

After polishing off a joint, she proceeded to touch me sexually. I had been single for about 6 months, and hadn’t been with a girl in that same amount of time, so I went along with it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She started performing oral sex on me right off the bat. To this day, it was one of the better experiences I’ve had. 

Over a period of time, clothes were removed and we started having sex. 
She was a boring partner, and spent most of the time on her back moaning. It wasn’t terrible, but I didn’t really enjoy myself. The whole experience was awkward.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I wore a condom and I’m glad I did. She told me afterward that she had over 20 partners which by my standards, was a lot for an 18 year old girl.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I hadn’t been with a girl in a while, and she threw herself at me.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A lot of Marijuana and a few beers on my part.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I never talked to her again. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time and neither was she. We were cool with the one night stand.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends knew about it. They didn’t really react at all.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes. We both were into it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Mildly. I’m not a huge fan of one nighters.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I got a much needed release, but I probably could’ve handled the post hookup a little better. We literally didn’t speak again.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative


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