by Sam
Gender: Female

Age: 45
Race/ethnicity: White British
Location: Suffolk, UK
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Accounts Administrator
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

A businessman flirting with his PA on a flightIn-Flight Ecstasy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 21 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup: Stranger sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had never met.  I remember him to be attractive, chatty and I suppose quite charming. We met on a plane on a long haul flight – he was in the next seat. There were just two seats together. I was by the window and he was on the aisle.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning. I simply found myself next to him on the plane. The flight was an overnight flight – we were in the air for around 9 hours. We chatted easily as soon as we met, ate dinner and settled for the night with the airline blankets provided covering us and seats back as far as they would go.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was a definite sexual spark. He reached over and worked his hand slowly between my legs. Very slowly I allowed him access between my legs and under my clothing. He worked on me until I came………after a rest he began again until I came again…….and again…..and again. I don’t remember how many times. Obviously this was all done very quietly!! Each time the hostess would pas,s it would stop until she had gone. Eventually we both fell asleep.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None necessary. We didn’t even kiss!

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? None……..I simply let it happen.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No – none.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning we woke up, had breakfast and as the flight came to an end we simply separated, wished each other well and went on our way.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No-one at the time although my current boyfriend knows the story. Not a problem regarding reaction – he’s very open minded and sexually experienced….although he has teased me occasionally!

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was consensual……if I hadn’t been happy with the situation I wouldn’t have let it happen. At no point did I feel coerced or threatened. It was erotic.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? It felt a little weird and I wasn’t quite sure how I should feel but I just carried on with my life and now remember it fondly as an erotic encounter during my youth.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a wonderful erotic experience with no strings attached. I don’t remember his name or anything about him except the experience.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I was brought up with conflicting attitudes to sex. Snow White verses modern independent woman. The men around me still had the attitude handed down from their dads ‘there’s girls for sleeping with and girls for marrying’. Seems to me they are the same girls and the guys just don’t seem to realise. Then there is what I call the Snow White Syndrome.  Boy marries Snow White but she’s a virgin…..soon bored by her inexperience, he sticks her in a tower to look after the kids while he goes out looking for fun behind her back.

I hate that there are still double standards around sex. My teenage daughters tell me that among their peers if you don’t, you’re frigid, if you do, you’re a slut.

I find it gut-wrenching that nothing has changed in 30 years and I can see why people search for casual sex with strangers – it’s kind of safer in a very weird way!

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