Location: New York
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
In Love with a Married Man
How long ago did this hookup happen? May 29, 2014
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I known him from work. We were in a relationship and he was still married. Things got out of control and he called it quits. The sex was so good that I choose to stick around. We hooked up on and off as friends with benefits. I meet him at a hotel and we have mind blowing sex. He doesn’t want a commitment. But I am willing to take what he can give to me rather than have nothing at all from him. I am not sure if he loves me. But I am deeply in love with him and I hook up when it’s on his time. I know this ain’t going anywhere but I’ve never felt this way about anyone.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook up began at work. But continued outside of work either in his car in the park or at a hotel.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We would do a lot of role playing during the hook up. He would dominate me. He would spank me or watch me play with my self as he watches and jerks off. There is always a lot of oral on both ends. He’s the best lover I’ve ever had. First man who has made me orgasm by oral or fingering. After sex we would talk about sports or his job or he would complain about his home life. It’s not ending. It’s still going. He would tie me up a lot and blind fold me. He would talk dirty to me using sex toys and lots of spanking.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I’m on birth control and we do not use protection. I am not sleeping with anyone. And supposedly he isn’t sleeping with his wife.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I have this hook up maybe 3 to four times a month. I enjoy his company. He satisfies me each time and we have great chemistry.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? N/A
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? This was consensual for both.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes and no….. Yes because I’m in love with him but he doesn’t want to commit…..and… It’s painful at times because I want to be with him. No because I never had this chemistry with any other man.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I have to mentally block out my feelings of love for him and act like it’s just sex and nothing more. When deep down inside I want to be with him. He says if I can’t handle the situation then he won’t sleep with me. So I have to have my poker face on and show that everything is ok.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
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