by Karl

Gender: Male
Age: 45
Race/ethnicity: White-ish
Current location: Berkeley, CA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Scientist
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Non-dogmatic
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 250
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

In The Dark

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m not sure what she looked like as i never saw her. we didn’t talk, so i have no idea who she is. She  had a nice soft and voluptuous body and was wearing some leather and had a tool belt.  I would guess about 5’6″. rather full thick long hair, very full lips, deliciously soft belly and breasts a little larger than a hand-full.
we met as we were both inside of a blacked out chill space at “that big gathering in the dessert”.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had gone into this chill space to relax and get away from the heat of the sun.  i found a place on the pillows inside amongst the other bodies in the space and lay down to nap.  I happened to be touching this lovely woman who responded by holding my hand.  I had not planned on making out with anyone going into the dome.  Instigation?  I did touch her arm as a lay down.  She may have taken that as an invitation to be affectionate. I had not really intended anything, but she may have thought i was initiating… doesn’t really matter.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? well, things developed slowly from hand holding to caressing and mutual massage and hugging and cuddling to eventually grinding, kissing and biting and hair pulling and being sexual with our caresses through clothing and then through underwear and then to reaching into each other’s underwear for manual sex.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had one.  She had what felt like two.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Well, this is the reason we did not actually fuck, eh.  I didn’t have a condom on me, and so wasn’t feeling motivated to actually fuck.  also, what she did with her hands was pretty damn phenomenal.  I think she really liked what i was doing with mine as well, from what i could tell.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? You need a reason? Because i am a human being?

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? no, at least not me, and i didn’t smell anything on her breath.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After She had come a couple of times and i came, we continued cuddling for a while.  We kissed  goodbye and gave each other a last squeeze and then i left and never actually saw her.
I felt great and hope she is having a fabulous life, wherever she is.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I chatted about it with a bunch of my friends, and they mostly thought it was pretty hot and that i was a freak.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? consensual both ways

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? no!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Hard to say best, she obviously was quite comfortable with herself and sexuality.  it was really fantastic all around.  The never seeing each other was such an interesting experience, this is what i would have to say is the ‘best’ thing about this. Even the social novelty aside, it was still pretty high on the list of peak first time sexual encounters.  No bads.  I mean, if we had not been in a big bed-filled dome with a bunch of other people whose relationship to public sex i did not know and had a condom or three, it might have been fun to fuck, but it was also phenomenal riding this tension of permissibility of ‘publicness’ of sex.  It definitely made me embrace more fully the potential joys of a one-off encounter, and not just around the sex, but around a sense of feeling… was really beautiful!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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