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What’s your gender? Genderfluid
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Server
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Queer
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Ranges from pansexual to asexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? This is the first

In The Heat

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One partner is someone I’ve just started being friends with benefits/casually dating. He’s an incredibly handsome man with wide set almond eyes, thick defined eyebrows, full beautiful lips and a very cute nose. His skin is deep toned and beautiful, his body is incredibly sexy, lean and not overly muscular but definitely defined.

The couple we ended up hooking up with were also very attractive from what I remember, they were Cuban I believe. The woman was very beautiful, long brown hair, a very defined waist and thick thighs. She had a youthful face, but she was probably older than me. The man, had a very sharp featured face and a muscular body. Someone I probably wouldn’t hook up with by himself, and I personally don’t find very attractive but by societal standards would be considered hot.

My partner and I did not know the couple at all prior to hooking up with them. To be fair I didn’t know my partner very well either, it was kind of a random vacation romance/hook up type of thing with the partner I knew so we had already hooked up a few times before encountering this other couple that we ended up hooking up with.

I met my FWB partner one night while I was out with some friends, thought he and his friends looked friendly and we were new in town so we all started talking. I thought he was attractive right away, we ended up hanging out that night, and exchanging numbers.

The couple that we hooked up with, we met maybe a week or so after he and I initially met, a friend of my FWB DJs at one of the swingers clubs in my FWBs city so we decided to check it out since neither of us had ever been to one.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook up began because we left the door unlocked in our private room at the swingers club. The general set up of the place went like this:

Walk in and it’s like a slightly raunchier then normal club, there’s a DJ booth, dance floor and some stripper poles. People are swaying and dancing, and occasionally you’ll see someone confident enough to get on the pole and start stripping, lots of couples mingling and everyone smiling at the potential of the night.

There are other rooms too however, one of which is just a pool room where you can play billiards and if you go off into the back rooms you’ll end up in a darkened room with couches where people are able to get to know eachother on a more intimate level which basically just means make out and grope eachother. Clothes still on at this point, but starting to come off.

After the couch room there is the towel room, where you are only allowed to enter if you have nothing but a towel on, or nothing at all. There are some lockers you can use to hold your things while you go explore.

The towel room is comprised of beds out in the open, as well as some rooms that have giant windows so you can watch the participants inside and doors that can lock if the participants only want to be watched. However if you leave the door unlocked that is the indication that anyone is free to join, assuming everyone wants that person etc. There are also rooms that have no windows at all, and just have doors there are beds in these rooms, about queen sized I’d say. The same rule of thumb applies here, if the door is unlocked then people are free to possibly join and if the door is locked that means privacy.

After my FWB and I had gotten a few drinks in us, loosened up a bit and danced in the main room we decided we wanted to check out what the rest of the place had to offer. So we wandered around a bit, mostly keeping to ourselves and just observing everyone. I wanted to go into the towel room so we got a locker and secured our things before entering. While in there we watched multiple orgies, tangled messes of people moaning, hands everywhere and the sweet sound of suckling flesh. There really is nothing like watching people in the heat of the moment.

Eventually we decided we wanted to fuck, seeing everyone share the experience of carnal pleasure gets to you after a while so we decided to just get a private room. Honestly I don’t think either of us really anticipated how far we would go that night. After getting our own room, we begin making out, both of us are heated, and mildly drunk. His nice full lips locking with mine, our tongues snaking out to meet, our hands gripping at the others body. I love the feeling of his hot skin under my touch, I trace the definition of his muscles with my finger tips… It’s all lovely, and we begin to rip the clothing off the other. Eventually I find myself on all fours with him firmly holding my hips and guiding me onto him.

As I am completely entranced by the feeling of him entering my body I hardly notice this couple who had wandered into our room until I see them out of the corner of my eye. Though it mentally registers that they’re there it only drives me to enjoy him more. I think at that point he also noticed them and so lifted me up from all fours so that my back was against his chest and his hands on my breasts, toying with my nipples as he continued to fuck me. Giving them a full view of our bodies joined and baring me for their viewing pleasure. I can’t quite remember if my partner came, but he and I stopped fucking and I laid down on the bed while he laid a foot or so away from me to cool down.

At this point, the woman crawled onto the bed and she and I began kissing and touching. Which is how the hook up began.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As she and I were kissing our hands were tracing the other’s curves. Our legs began to intertwine and she ended up on top of me, at my urging she made her way up to my face. She was very wet at this point and I lapped it up before swirling my tongue around her clit. She began wriggling on top of me so I placed my hands on her hips to steady myself as I ate her out. As I was eating her out she was making out with my FWB and her partner was attending to her breasts.

At this point I wasn’t sure who’s hands were whose but it didn’t matter. Eventually she leaned over to my FWB and began licking and sucking his dick, and while she got off my face her lover replaced her with his mouth. While we were making out he was rubbing my clit with his fingers. I reached and felt his penis, which was incredibly, incredibly thick. I was a bit worried about that, since my FWB was already big in my opinion but this guy was just super thick. Next thing I know the guy is ready to start fucking but I insisted on using condoms, so we all had a little pause while we strapped up so to speak. After he put the condom on, he tried to slide into me. As I suspected he was too thick, though he managed to get it in, it was very uncomfortable for me.

Throughout this entire time we had been speaking Spanish, and he inquired if I was Mexican (which I am, half) and it was just a really funny and strange conversation to have during the middle of a foursome. I am assuming it was my accent that gave it away because the room was so dark it was rather hard to make out what everyone looked like.

Shortly after a few more uncomfortable thrusts I tapped out in the most literal sense. Apparently during that time the lady had been going down on my FWB and he was fingering her but nothing else happened because he was already spent from the time that he and I had fucked.

Overall it was a very surreal experience, I think because my FWB and I had no sense of what we were doing and did not think we would end up going that far it made it really funny. Kind of like a “what is life?” type of moment. Which we continued to have up until the following couple days afterwards. My FWB was just the same towards me as he was before we had the foursome. The sex itself with the guy was not very satisfying, it was borderline painful but it was also kind of neat to know that I could take that size for just a little while. I really enjoyed the woman however, she was incredibly sexy and I was very attracted to her.

As we all detangled ourselves there was kind of a unanimous laugh, and hand shaking, cheek kissing and kind of a “pat on the back, good game” kind of feeling. After they left the room my FWB and I looked at eachother grinning and kind of shook our heads in the “wtf just happened” kind of way. We ended up leaving the room shortly after and headed to the locker room. As we were getting dressed the couple passed us, and the guy patted my FWB on the back as he was leaving in one of the most comical ways we could have ever experienced that night.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up my FWB and I got dressed, said our good byes to his friend and went to the car. In the car we both kind of just sat and stared and laughed. We literally kept saying “what is life?!” on the way back to my hotel. The next day we were both exhausted because we had to work early in the morning, and continued to have the what is life feeling for about a week.

I have no expectations or hopes with the couple, honestly I don’t even know their names. I DO HOPE THEY GET TESTED FOR STIs however, because I ended up getting an easily curable one shortly after that hook up while my FWB did not. And since I had to insist on that guy wearing a condom I have to suspect that the couple didn’t regularly practice safer sex.

My FWB is awesome, we’re very communicative and I really like him as a person. When I found out I got that STI he was nonjudgemental, didn’t make me feel bad and was very sweet and supportive. He got tested as well and didn’t have anything, but just the maturity he exhibited was a real turn on. No idea where it’ll go, but I’m enjoying whatever comes along. So much so that I’m back in his city as I type this, two months later just to visit. Haha.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Everyone else was/is doing it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they were all excited and somewhat worried (about STIs)

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I only regret not using a dental dam or something with the woman, because the STI I had was actually in my eyes. Super strange, but it apparently happens.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Honestly the best thing about the hook up was it showing me how opened minded and down my FWB is.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Getting an STI in my eyes, and fucking the guy wasn’t too pleasurable. I could have gone without fucking him to be honest.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think it taught me to be more cautious with STIs. It was my first STI and I’m not too keen on getting another one. So although I enjoy group sex, maybe now I’ll only have group sex with people I know.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was very much a “when in Rome” type of thing.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is wonderful if you go in with the right mindset. I mean that in the sense that anything can be positive or destructive depending on how you feel about it. If you think casual sex is dirty than you’re more likely to feel dirty or negative about your experience after you have it. But then again, you might prove yourself wrong if you have wonderful casual sex, so I guess it doesn’t really matter. I think as a society we need to educate everyone on how to practice safer sex, and really take away the stigma of having casual sex in general.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a step in the right direction. I think it will help people get over the kinky crazy sex they have by seeing the fact that other people do it too.

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