Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Actor, Writer
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Chutneysexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months.
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand.
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? 6’2″ Tall, White American dude, 30 years old, Geeky and beautiful, Met at a Party, I wanted him the moment I laid my eyes on him.
Something really pleasant about the man, his awkward smile, jagged dance moves, coupled with a radiating sense got me curious.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We roamed the streets of South Mumbai all night long after the party. We couldnt go back to his hotel because he was staying with a friend, and I lived with my parents back them.
So the dingy corners and pillars of Fort area in Churchgate became our bed, but there is only so much you can do on the street, especially in a country where gay sex is still illegal (Damn Article 377).
We met the next day, I got the keys to a friends apartment on pretext of using it for rehearsal. And there we were. Two hungry animals, ready to unleash our instinct and want at each other. It was mutual, both attacked each other at once!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was instant fire. Within seconds we knew that nothing was off bounds, within seconds we knew that we could trust each other, and be unapologetic about what we want and don’t. Within seconds I trusted him, and within seconds he showed me he did too. The air conditioner didn’t do much and soon the leather sofa we were on was wet with us. Two hairy men, and the friction did let some of it loose.
We didn’t mind, we wanted all of each other. Body, sweat, spit, hair, breath, heartbeat, lust… love, maybe!
We shared everything. But didn’t fuck. Gay sex is complicated when you don’t know each other too well, No matter how connected you may feel you are.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We joked about it, casually asking about each others sexual habits.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I am 23, and decided to experiment with men only last year. I did and felt like a fish in the water. I used to be with women before that. So now that I have made this choice, I am a little impatient to explore more and more, have different experiences, catch up on the time lost.
Otherwise, I am not a casual sex guy. But I did it, and I enjoyed it, and would do it again!
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I always tell people Sex is instant and honest happiness. It’s physical reality and you can’t cheat it, when you try to, you know it.
I felt good. Elated at the joy a stranger can give me. He was flying to another town the same night. We spent the evening together, attended a brilliant music gig, and then I dropped him at the nearby local station where we kissed goodbye in full public view. It was sensational.
We are connected to each other via facebook, but its unreal to expect anything more. Though sometimes I drop in a random text. His replies are short on warmth I feel, but they are courteous.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends, colleagues…
My friends are still getting used to the idea of me being with men, but they were excited to hear the story. Jealous, hopefully!
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, I can speak for him too.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Never.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general?: Best thing was the non verbal communication via breath, eyes, movement, which guided us exactly to what we wanted.
Worst thing was that he had to leave the next day, I could have done with some more.
Has it changed the way I think about casual sex?
Yes, because unlike the other hook ups that leave me feeling a bit flustered or indecisive the next day… with this, there were no doubts.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? He said he liked my strong legs.
For me, it was his lips, so tender and caring. And wet. Very wet.
For more about Shivam, check out his blog, Words Are Important.
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