What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual


How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Juliet – let’s call her Juliet – and I met when we settled in this foreign city one year ago. We have some friends in common so she was one of the first people we connected to, thanks notably to a common social background. Since the place we chose to live in the city was close to hers, we gradually spent more and more time altogether, with her husband and my wife. We quickly became close friends, as couples, but there was immediately a special feeling between the two of us. Some of our conversations went very intimate and it appeared that we could have a lot of non-verbal communication thanks to a very strong complicity involving humor, eye contact and a lot of texting. At that point, I knew something sexual could happen anytime.

Our complicity was known to our expat community, including her husband who was calling me “her girlfriend”. Some guys were a bit envious since she is obviously one of the most desirable girls in the community, certainly the hottest. Put in short, we were – and still are – a known quatuor of nice people.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Both my wife and her husband were travelling for work that week. As it happens, we went to have some drinks at night in town with a common girlfriend. Very quickly the conversation moved to fidelity – I would rather say infidelity – and sex, as well as how we were seeing and dealing with it. At that time we were facing one of the most notorious hotels of the city and Juliet joked about how she spent good times here with her lover.

Before midnight we decided it was time to sleep. Our friend took a taxi heading to her place. Since Juliet and I live close, we decided to share one heading to her place and that I will walk then to my place.

Upon alighting, she asked me whether I would like to come to get another drink, which I answered positively.

We continued the previous conversation from the bar and after several drinks, she confessed the lover story was real and for how long it lasted. I confessed about how my wife and I were progressively moving from a monogamous to an open relationship and shared previous hookup stories as well as what motivated them.

She asked me whether I could make out with her and I said obviously yes. We started to kiss quite intensively.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? That escalated quickly. We moved from the balcony to the living room where we laid down the sofa. She took off her pants and thong and I was immediately down on her in the most natural position. Still working on her pussy, we started other positions: facesitting, doggy, all back and forth. I also played with my finger and rimmed her ass for a long time, which was something very new to her. That combined with some pussy and ass fingering to supplement my tongue’s actions led her to orgasm despite being quite intoxicated by alcohol.

It ended suddenly when we heard her baby crying so she had to see her.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went back home to grab a quick two-hour sleep before our kids wake up. The next day I had my head in the clouds as not only I spent some very good time with a very good friend but I also had sex with the hottest girl in town.

We are still friends with benefits.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? On the emotional side, sleeping with my current best friend.
On the sexual side, some good oral and anal action.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that her husband does not know.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It confirmed once again that the diptych monogamy/infidelity is not universal to the human being.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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