by: Marissa

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Current location: Philippines
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Designer
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Intense dream

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Let’s call him Vert. Vert is a 23 year-old guy from Province who just transferred to our city. I met him at a gym and he happens to be my personal trainer. I’ve known him as a gym instructor at first and an MMA fighter as well, but as I dug in to his profile, I found out he was an HR recruiter, a chef, a businessman, a leader of a youth association and a musician. I was so impressed and I admired him so much even though I had a boyfriend. He works freelance in the gym therefore I am his only client. For some outside reasons me and my boyfriend broke up. Vert resigned at the gym, but we became close friends and spent time together outside of the gym. I liked him, and I think he liked me too.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Since we were getting closer and meeting each other’s friends, I stayed in his apartment after hanging out with his group of friends. Morning came and we were alone. It was not the first time that I slept there but it was the first time we were left alone together. We were having a fun morning, we’re teasing each other, tickling each other. Then he asked me if I was turned on our teasing. Since I wasn’t seduced by his acts, I said no. Jokingly I told him he doesn’t know how to seduce. Then in matter of seconds, he was already kissing me, on top of me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vanilla sex. Just him on top of me. It didn’t took long and he ended it when it was my turn. It’s rude of me to compare, but I think what happened was because it was the first time we had sex with each other. It wasn’t good sex and reminded me of the sex I used to have with my ex.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t and he didn’t.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? It happened so fast, we didn’t even use any protection let alone discuss it.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I like him and I was so attracted to him. I want to get to be closer to him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No drugs were involved but I bet we’re both in state of hangover.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He told me nothing happened, that he just had a dream, an intense one. I was sad about it, in some part I regret it. The closeness that we had before it was now at risk, and that’s what I regret what happened about. I want him again, whatever status we may be in, I want him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To 2 of my girl friends and to a guy. They were shocked because I am known to be a conservative girl and I’ve only known this guy for a month after I had a long relationship with my ex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I wanted it. I fantasied for it before.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? In some parts I do for it may change how we treat each other. Our friendship is at stake.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about it was it was my first time and by this I am more open to having this kind of thing in the future but still depends. If it is with him I would like to have it again.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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