What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Cheating
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Intense Sex With An Old Friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? One week
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known B for over 20 years as he is a friend of my older brother. He’s about 180lbs, Mediterranean looking, and fit as fuck. Nothing sexual had ever happened between us before. I have deep trust and affection for him. I’ve spoken to him before about my unhappy sexless marriage and some of the hookups I’ve experienced. He confided in me about an affair he had a few years ago too.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We live in different European countries. I was visiting the country where he lived and we organized to get together for drinks one evening while my husband kept the kids. We chatted as old friends do until the place closed. When we left, we were standing around when I pulled him towards me to kiss him.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed very passionately and right from the start I was surprised by the intense chemistry we had. It had been a long time since I have felt anything close to this. Things started escalating quickly. Our hands and tongues were everywhere they could get while dressed for cold weather. He took me by the hand and we moved to a nearby park where we found a bench next to a path. Unfortunately, it was well lit and apartment buildings were behind it. He sat down and pulled me on to him and we unzipped coats. I unclamped my front opening bra and he lifted my top and started sucking and biting my tits just right. No hesitation, just his hot mouth on me. I couldn’t get the friction I wanted while facing him so I sat in his lap with my back to his front and started grinding down. He unzipped my jeans and went for my clit like a homing pigeon. It was so good feeling his fingers inside me. I was soaked and electrified. He pulled down his jeans and I sat on his hard dick and started fucking him right there. A cyclist went past much to my short-lived embarrassment. I stood up and held the back of the bench so he could fuck me doggy style, deep and hard until I came. Then he sat down and I sucked his glorious cock until he shot his hot delicious cum into my mouth.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we snuggled in the cold and laughed about our electrical sex. I was totally blissed out. Then he walked me home and I went to bed still feeling him on my skin.
The next evening we had dinner together with our respective spouses and kids. We managed to hide for a minute and kiss. I love the way his eyes go so dark, how hard his body is, how good he smells.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our chemistry is out of this world. We both agree on how insanely good it was.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Doing it on a cold public park bench. Possibly giving a whole apartment block a free sex show and traumatizing the cyclist who zoomed past. Knowing I won’t see him or fuck him again for a year is unthinkable. I wish we had had a bed. I wish I could have his whole body naked and take my time. I wish I didn’t feel so strongly about him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’ve realized that this is what I should be looking for. Too many of my affairs are mediocre. At the same time, I don’t want a divorce and this is possibly where this kind of intensity with someone else would lead. I guess casual doesn’t really apply to what we experienced.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve always been confident sexually but for a long time, I followed the “rules”. I wish I had played the field more before settling down and not been so focused on relationships. Making up for it now despite the moral issues of my situation.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. Regularly use it for masturbating. Thanks!
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