by Dana

Gender: Female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Current location: NY, NY
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Writer
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Intimate One-Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall (6 ft), muscular with dark hair and dark brown eyes. We had a couple very close mutual friends in common so I automatically trusted him and we got along very well instantly as we connected on the same wavelength. The first time we met was at a bar where a bunch of our friends were at. I was instantly attracted to his intelligence, self-confidence and the way he carried himself.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a week of flirting, texting and one night when he slept in my bed (only thing sexual that happened was kissing as I didn’t want to sleep with him too soon), we ended up hooking up after a Saturday night in a bar where he shoved a guy for trying to flirt with me. I took him back to my place and we only made out as we were exhausted but in the morning he instigated sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first he told me we should get in 69 position as he loved it. I was hesitant as I knew would be moving soon so I had no future with him, however after he continued to encourage it, I got into 69 and we were there comfortably for several minutes. I enjoy oral sex being reciprocated and it was only the third time I had done 69 at that point in my life. After I got turned on and wet, I got on top of him and rode his cock until I came by collapsing and moaning on him. My orgasms are always pretty intense so he held me as I needed several seconds to regroup myself after my orgasm. He also fucked me doggy style but ultimately ended up coming in my mouth, which I swallowed (always do). I felt this sexual experience was incredibly intimate for a one-night stand, we were in bed for the entire day, cuddling in between sex. He is definitely boyfriend material, it’s just a shame he’s conditioned to believe girls my age only want to hook up. After sex, we talked about everything from money and politics to food. Unfortunately he lived an hour away from me and it was getting late that Sunday and as we both had to work, he went back home.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had one great orgasm, and he came as well.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t talk about STIs but not concerned about pregnancy as I’m on the IUD. I wish we had taken just a second to talk about STIs but I got tested afterwards and I’m fine, so no regrets.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? To have a connection with someone my own age for once. Also, we already had a strong mental and emotional connection so I was keen on having this physical connection with him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were at a bar the night before so we both had several drinks but the hookup occurred the next morning when we were sober, so no drugs or alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept in touch after the hookup as we have close mutual friends. I had fond feelings for him still. While he suggested another hookup the weekend after, I unfortunately at this point re-kindled things with a past love so I told him I was not interested. The poor guy was literally at my door and I had to tell him about my past love who was now back in my life and I didn’t want to ruin that by hooking up with someone else. While I did initially think this hookup/FWB was boyfriend material and was definitely a guy I wanted to date, it’s better off we just stay friends. I still consider him a great friend and we keep in touch once in awhile.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only talked to two close girlfriends about it – they were surprised but happy for me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Initially I felt that 69 was being pushed on me way too much and since we were already naked I thought ‘why not’ so it didn’t feel 100% consensual at first however I’m glad we did it. And my partner obviously was thrilled with getting oral and vaginal sex, just as he wanted.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Absolutely not. I’m glad I got to sleep with him.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was one of the few hookups where I felt good about myself afterwards. Perhaps the worst thing was that I didn’t get to wear nice lingerie/heels and really primp myself up like I like to do before sex. This hookup made me realize I can enjoy casual sex, just with the right guy who is intelligent, thinks like me and respects me as a human.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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