What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 17
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Let’s call him Leo. We are in the same year at high school and about to graduate next year. I’ve probably known him since I’ve been 11 but got friends with him just about a year ago. We had mutual friends and he is a member of the group we usually hang out with. He is average looking not quite a hottie but he is a really nice person. He’s always there if you want to talk and that’s one thing I appreciate a lot about him. We’ve just been friends but I knew he was a Virgin and hasn’t had any sexual experience including kissing. I’ve never thought about him in a romantic kind of way as it just felt weird to think about it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A friend of mine,let’s call her Maria, had a free house and she invited us over to have a few drinks. I think it was around 11pm and the first few people left. Leo, Maria, Dan (another friend of ours) and me decided to continue drinking just us four. Maria had the whole week a free house and we guys have holidays so it was perfect. We already met up that week to drink. So as is four were left we decided to play a drinking game. Leo doesn’t drink alcohol so it was just Dan, Maria and me drinking. We got quite quickly drunk and it was a fun evening. Things changed when we started including stripping in the game but there was still nothing sexual about it. Around 4am we decided to head to bed. Dan and Maria would sleep in her bed while Leo and me continued watching TV downstairs in her room. She has her room on the first floor and up the attic her bed. Just remember, Leo was the only one sober.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well as we watched TV Leo suddenly poked me and whispered to be quiet and listen. He pointed upstairs and we could clearly hear kissing sounds and moaning. We giggled as we didn’t thought they would ever make out or even hook up. Even if I’m a Virgin I know a lot about my sexuality. I think the alcohol supported it but I couldn’t help it and got aroused by the sounds and thoughts what Dan and Maria were doing. I whispered to Leo “I hope she doesn’t regret what’s she’s doing. She’s a Virgin.” “I thought she already had sex” “No, both of us haven’t had sex yet.” I knew by this time that I wanted to make out with him so badly. I just needed the right situation and the fact that he was sober made it difficult. Upstairs Maria was moaning loudly. I started talking to Leo again. “You know what’s really bad I haven’t even kissed someone properly yet” “Me neither but you shouldn’t be ashamed for that” “Why don’t WE just get over with our first kiss?” I dropped the question and was looking directly in his eyes. He slowly moved his face closer to mine. He said “Really?” and as our lips were just about to touch I said “Yes. Let’s do it!” We started kissing and it was different at first. I always imagined kissing quite different but enjoyed it. He gently pushed me back “Don’t you think that they can hear us?” I giggled “No, they are too busy with themselves” Maria shouted from upstairs and asked if everything was alright. I mentioned before that I felt a bit dizzy. I suggested Leo that we could go in the bathroom. He shouted upstairs that I wasn’t feeling very well and he would take me to the bathroom in case I needed to vomit. We held each other’s hand went to the bathroom and closed the door. Immediately our kissing got more passionate. He sat down on the closed toilet and I sat on his lap still kissing him. I could feel his errection through his pants. I wanted more. I took his shirt and mine as well. As we were about to head to bed I haven’t had a bra on. He gently touched my breast and erect nipple. I was getting soaking wet. I touched his cock through his pants. We decided that we wouldn’t have sexual intercourse as I forgot to take birth control on one day and wasn’t safe. I stood up and took off my panties. He took of his underwear as well. His cock was nice and average size. The thing that surpised me is that he was circumsiced. I really liked it. His hard cock was pressing against me as we kissed. I gently jerked him off and told him that I wanted to put it in my mouth. Leo sat back on the toilet seat and I gave him a blowjob. I’ve never done that before but really enjoyed it. I told him to tell me when he was about to cum so I wasn’t forced to swallow. I jerked him off and licked the tip of his dick. He moaned and had his hands in my hair. “You’re doing that really good” “Thanks!”. I tried to put his while cock in my mouth but it didn’t work. As my head was bouncing up and down on his nice dick he told me that he was about to cum. I stopped sucking his dick and jerked him off. I spat on his cock and jerked him off faster. Suddenly Leo let out a big moan and came on my hand and his stomach. I was interested so I tried his cum. It was nice and I liked it. I licked his dick clean and he stood up to wash his hands. I sat down on the toilet and starting playing with my clit. He looked at me and said “My turn”. Leo asked me what I liked and told him to finger me while licking my clit. I moaned. I’ve never been so goddamn horny in my whole life. However I couldn’t cum. He was at it for a time but I just couldn’t cum. I felt sorry for him so I faked my orgasm. We got up kissed and got dressed. It was a good first sexual experience and even if I didn’t have an orgasm I enjoyed it a lot! We headed to bed afterwards.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day it was a bit awkward at first but it didn’t last long. However it was awkward for Maria. She didn’t hook up with Dan but gave him a blowjob. She regretted it a bit but we laughed about it. Me and Leo always looked at each other giggling, knowing that neither Dan nor Maria knew what happened in the bathroom.
During the oral sex both Leo and me made clear that we knew that we’d never go out or something like that. It was just fun and I was happy that nothing had changed. However we talked about really having intercourse and loosing our virginity. But that could just happen when I’d catch up with birth control again.
When I got home I sent him a text saying that I was worried that this has changed our friendship. I said I didn’t regret what happened and didn’t want to lose him as a friend. He calmed me down saying that it wouldn’t change anything and he liked what happen.
I don’t really know but I wouldn’t mind if that would happen again. I’m always very horny and it was good to get relief once with other actions than masturbating. I don’t think that friends with benefits would work for us but hooking up again would be nice.
I’m happy that nothing has changed so far and I don’t think it will happen.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Plan B / Emergency contraception, No penetrative sex happened, We both knew that this was our first time so no need to worry about STIs.
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve talked to no one about it but u really want to tell my best friend. It’s just Leo and I promised each other not to tell anyone about what happened. My best friend is also very good friends with him so I think that telling her wouldn’t be the best idea. But I don’t know yet.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I wish that I wouldn’t have been so drunk so I could remember better. Furthermore the next day I panicked about being pregnant. Even if we didn’t have intercourse his sperm was on my hand. I cleaned it but touched my vagina afterwards. Just to be safe I got emergency contraception from the local pharmacy. It said I could vomit but nothing happened. I really do need to remind myself to take birth control punctual.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I think the best thing was that I knew Leo. We were friends so it was passionate but still gentle.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It wasn’t bad but wished I had an orgasm. And I feel a bit bad that I faked it but he tried so hard and I didn’t want him to think that he wasn’t good.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I felt good about feeling wanted. His errection made me feel good about my body. I knew now that I was able to get someone aroused.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Being 17 and a virgin is annoying sometimes but making your first sexual experiences is just awesome. The only problem I have is that since that night I’m wet 24/7. I’m so horny and can’t change it. Guess this hook up was too hot for me 😉
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Women are still called sluts for having casual sex. Society sees them as dirty but for men it is no problem. For the future I just wish that the slutshaming will end women can enjoy casual sex as much as men do.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a great idea and I just love it to read about other people’s sex life.
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