Race/ethnicity: White British
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bi-Curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Is It Still Sex If It Was With My Inner Thigh?
How long ago did this hookup happen? New year just gone
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was okay looking I thought to begin with because I had only met him once or twice before but only really had him round because I had something for his friend. I had met these guys at a night out in London and we all hit it off so kept in touch for future nights out. I hadn’t hooked up with him before but I knew he liked me so when it came to midnight and the party was in full swing we kissed. I wasn’t feeling too into him just when I’ve had a drink I am anyones.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a brief party at mine with my friends everyone separated off to the different events we all planned to go. I went with this guy and his friends to the night of their choice and that’s where we first kissed. When we got back to my house where everyone had regrouped for a day sesssion/after party, his friends left and he stayed. After a mixture of drugs and alcohol I was feeling horny as always and he was in sight so I seduced him into my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup involved a lot of french kissing which I could get into. I didn’t know this boy very well so hadn’t really assessed our compatibility physique wise. As the hookup went on it became apparent to me how skinny he was which was an instant turn off but it was too far gone I just carried on. He struggled to get hard so I gave him oral to try to hurry him along and when I felt like he was ready we tried again but he just felt limp again. However, he obviously is not very aware of his own body and just started thrusting all over the place. I attempted a few times to try and put his penis inside me myself but every time I reached down I felt an awkwardness growing. In the end I was just leaving him to it waiting for it to end. He tried putting me in a few different positions which where pretty ambitious considering he couldn’t even correctly do missionary. At one point a position he tried was even standing up which was definitely too ambitious for his skills. I didn’t have the heart to tell him he wasn’t in. He seemed to be enjoying himself too much and I thought I could just let him have sex with my inner thigh until he came because if he hadn’t noticed he wasn’t inside a vagina he was probably a virgin. It went on far too long and I couldn’t stomach it any longer so I ended the debacle by rolling over and telling him I was tired to which he replied, ‘oh so you don’t want to carry on?’
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t use any precautions or discuss sti history.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I get horny when I am drunk and he was the only male there that wasn’t my friend.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had been drinking since early new years eve evening and sniffing mdma throughout the night and morning and we hooked up about 6am new years day
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards he tried to pursue me but I declined all offers. I cringed every time I thought about it for a while. I still see him often due to me being very good friends with his friend I initially fancied. I am indifferent with him now, I am polite when I see him but happier if I don’t.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke about it with my best friend who is a guy who found the whole thing hilarious and we still laugh about it to this day. His friend who I fancied in the first place has brought it up a few times which has caused us to discuss if too. His friend I liked hooked up a while after this whole think so when he has brought it up it was more of a case of, ‘Are you going to ignore me after like you did to my mate?’ and every time I go out with him and ask who he’s with he refers to him still as my ‘lover’.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? To begin with yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, probably because it was the most unsuccessful and cringe-worthy hookup of my life. Also it is a lot to do with other peoples opinions of him. He is a bit of a joke to people that know him and I am always hearing awkward and embarrassing facts or stories about him that add to the shame.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? There was no best thing.
The entire hookup was the worst thing. Along with the fact that he insisted on staying at my house for the rest of the party and long after I’d gone to bed. Outstayed his welcome completely.
It hasn’t changed my views much I have still been making mistakes since.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
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