by Anna Porcupine

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Unemployed
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Jamming

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met the guy at an outdoor concert with dancing. He knew some people I knew, so we started talking. He was tall, blond and blue eyed, with big shoulders. He was probably quite a bit older than me at the time, but I guessed he was 23-24. I really liked him from the beginning, so I went into full flirt mode. I had also just broken up with a boyfriend who I really cared about, so I guess I was being more adventurous than usual as a result.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were chatting about all kinds of things, having a really nice conversation about cliche things like travelling and stuff, but I really enjoyed it. Finally at the end of the night, he and some of his friends had to put some stuff in the car and then he offered to drop us each at our houses. I think we must have said to eachother then that I would go back to his. The others didn’t realise though, so it was quite funny when they left.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The minute we got inside, he put me on his sofa/bed which was next to the door. At this point the desire had been building up for quite a few hours.. We were quite tipsy/drunk, so I don’t really remember the details, but we had sex for hours and it was beautiful. I think first he gave me the most amazing oral sex I have ever experienced, he was so tender! Then we just had amazing sex for hours, it was as if we had known each other forever, we had amazing chemistry. I think we both orgasmed many times during that night. It was light when we finally fell asleep. The next morning he made me breakfast in bed, complete with orange juice and coffee and everything, and we discovered that he was actually 28 and I was 17. So he was a bit awkward about that for a while. But then we had sex again on his balcony which overlooked the mountains and it was really nice. Then I had to leave, and he asked me for my number.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms, but we didn’t discuss STI history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? He was really hot and we had a great conversation and I had just broken up with my boyfriend and one thing led to another and we hooked up.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were a bit tipsy as I mentioned earlier, but not excessively.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We met again a few days later, in a bar with our common friends and it was like we had been together for years. It was really nice and we went back to his again and had amazing sex. I didn’t really want to be in a relationship though, I had just broken up with the other guy, and this guy was a lot older than me and had a job and everything. In addition to this, I had organised to go on a holiday a few days later. He said he would come find me but then when he called me about the details I made some excuse that he couldn’t come and that’s when it ended. I had found someone else, plus as I said I didn’t really want to be in a relationship with that guy. I found out he was quite sad about it though.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mainly talked to my friends about it. They just reacted in the normal teenage girl giggly way as far as I remember.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Very much wanted by both!

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No it was beautiful.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? All of it was really beautiful. The sex was amazing, it was really straightforward and it felt grown up. I suppose the worst was that he was interested in more afterwards and I wasn’t. But during the event itself there was nothing bad. The hookup did change how I thought about sex, in the sense that it helped me get over my ex. My ex had been the only person I had slept with up till then, and I was very much in love with him, so in a way I think I thought that the sex was good because of that. I realised that you can have amazing sex with an almost complete stranger, and that was beautiful to me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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