Race/ethnicity: Hindu but irrelevant
Current location: India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Lawyer, Pursuing masters
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Sexual Liberal and mostly Sapiosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month and still going on
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? FWB
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this one guy on Tinder. Unusally tall, broad and of an Iranian origin. He came from a mixed background which made him 10x interesting. Writer/ Blogger and extremely intelligent. He was the only guy who could convince me to meet him within 12 hours after I started talking to him. After having a couple of disappointments and long day he convinced me with a coffee and lots of entertaining conversations. Coffee and conversation were good and what followed was a long walk on the sidewalk of a highway. We got to talking and it turned out we believed in lot of similar things. We spoke a lot, argued about few and right when I was in middle of a feminist argument he interrupted saying: “I’m sorry to interrupt you but I find your body curves extremely attractive but I find your brains even more sexy” I blushed and I forgot what my next point of argument was. Awkward silence was about to start when he broke into another controversial topic and we carried it along. He had this weird habit of talking about his past sexual experiences. Not like I haven’t spoken to men about sex and sexual preferences but his personal experiences weirded me out. He hinted a lot about sex in the conversations but I didn’t really pay much attention. This is my first FWB I tend to keep one hand distance in the first date trying to give as least hints as possible for some sex later.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So I got my LLB result the same night I had the first coffee meet with this guy. I was really happy about the result and he asked me whether I would like to celebrate it over beer and some chicken. He had spoken a lot about his cooking skills and that was very hard to deny. Since I was a little paranoid of going over somebodies place in the second meet he assured me nothing would happen since he really respected women but if I wanted to do something he wouldn’t stop either 😉 He was quite charming that way and I believed him. I went over to his place and I met him near the elevator below his building. He complimented me that I looked good in the elevator I smiled and we went to his place. As soon as I entered the house he kept the grocery bags on the chair and he came extremely close to me and pushed me against the wall. He said I smelled amazing and he couldn’t resist and planted a deep wet kiss on my lips. Honestly for the first time when he kissed, I was caught off guard so I didn’t really know whether I wanted it or no but the kiss was good. He kissed me a couple of more times and I kept giggling. He asked me whether I liked it or not and it was hard to say no coz frankly by that time even I didn’t know whether I liked it or not. Then even I initiated and we kissed for a little time and in next 15 mins I know I was on his bed and we were pounding on each other. We both had sex before that around the same time that was around 3 weeks back so we were both were quite horny in 1st 15-20 mins
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He knew his way around but since we both were quite horny we didn’t need much foreplay. I had recently come out of a 2.5 year old relationship where my boyfriend never went down on me so when this guy did it hit me and I went wild. The room was filled with my grunts and screams. I think I came the time he was giving me oral itself. After I came he did it for some more and then penetrated it inside me. Now I can’t say I’ve had a lot of sexual experiences but his dick by far was the best. I don’t think the length mattered but the girth did and it filled me up like I had never been fucked before. We both came pretty soon the first time. We did 3 times that 1 afternoon and subsequently he was getting better. After sex we spoke a lot but frankly it was more of him talking and me listening and that guy spoke a LOT. After a point it did get annoying but it was difficult to tell him to shut up. The best part of him was he could last long. That max that he humped me was I guess 25 mins and he could go further hadn’t my pussy gone dry. Apparently he has been with soo many women and he’s soo experienced that he comes only when the woman tells him to come. So I can say he was much of a giver. We spoke mostly personal and general issues. It hasn’t yet ended, we meet regularly for sex once a week for past 6 weeks
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condom for the first time but he assured me he had enough control to pull it out when he was cumming. Hence the second time I gave him the chance and surprisingly he really did have control over his penis and nerves and frankly it was good. I was little apprehensive till my next due date for periods and when I did finally have I was quite happy. It was my first unprotected sex.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had recently broken up. I came out of a 2.5 years relationship. Honestly I wasn’t looking for anything serious anytime soon. And it was the same with him. He had come out of a year long relationship too. Moreover sex was really good so I didn’t mind continuing after the first time.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None whatsoever. I’m sure smoking doesn’t include so no.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The sex was really good so I was quite a happy satisfied woman for few days. Somehow the next time when we were having the after sex talk I realized he would never be the kind of a guy I could date and I didn’t wanna date much. In the next meet after having sex when we were having casual talks we both agreed we were not emotionally compatible with each other enough to fall for each other. I was glad at least that was established. There was a week in between when we didn’t meet for more 6-7 days and weren’t much in touch through phone either. So when he Whatsapped me after long for just casually asking how I was and all and we got to talking he struck a direct question towards- “I wonder whether we’re exclusive” Now honestly even before he asked I was also wondering the same thing. Considering his past experiences i really thought I wasn’t the only one he was sleeping around with. Although after we both cleared that we were exclusive I was confused what would happen further between us and I expressed my concern to him since he had more experience in this field than I did. He made it extremely clear in pointers
1. We don’t go for movies or dates
2. We don’t meet each others friends or socialize together
3. If either of us want to go ahead and have another sexual partner they can but honesty would be appreciated
4. If either of us finds the one or wanna date somebody u just have to make it clear with this person and end it all
5. To keep in touch after all this ends is quite a call to be taken then considering how the relationship would be
6. I could meet and have sex with him anytime I wanted in future.
Sounded pretty cool to me. Everything crystal clear from the start. Even I wasn’t looking for something serious out of this so clearing out the uncertainty helped.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Couple of my close friends whom I share my sexual experiences with.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best part was his dick and the fact he went down on me for as long as I wanted.
Worst was all the talking he did after sex. Tt was good but he spoke a LOTTTTTT
Yes it did change my way about casual sex on many levels. First coz I always believed in this kind of an arrangement since it sounded practical to me but never chose to get into one in spite the opportunities. Secondly coz this guy was insightful and in couple of my post sex talks he made me meet my insecurities from the past, which I had been consciously avoiding.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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