by Sybil

Gender: Female
Age: 49
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian

Location: California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Tutor
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Just a One-Off

How long ago did this hookup happen? One year ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Cyber sex turned real

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was still married but had recently started screwing around. I met this guy on OKCupid and we started chatting. The chat quickly turned to sex and we found ourselves becoming extremely turned on. His photos were very erotic. Within an hour, we agreed to meet at a local spa for sex.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I think it was mutual. We were both horny. I may have been the one to suggest meeting right away.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I saw him, he was much older, shorter, and heavier than his photos would have had me believe. They were probably at least five years old. However, I was still horny and not very selective so I decided to go through with it, anyway.

He was skilled and very concerned with my pleasure at the expense of his own. I had several orgasms. He had one. We both enjoyed it. We talked about our relationships, our past, how we liked living in the Bay Area.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Lust and the thrill of meeting a stranger for sex.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He asked if he could see me again and I said no. I have no expectations for the future with him. I am neutral toward him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my current boyfriend. He thought it was hot.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was knowing how easy it is for a woman to get sex if she wants it. The worst was that he used old photos on his profile. After that experience, I knew to ask for recent photos and to tell men that I would leave if I discovered that they had lied about their age or appearance.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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