Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5yrs
How would you best classify this hookup? Booty call
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 9 months on the island. Went to cafe to use internet. He was there and immediately introduced himself and invited me over. He looked as though he was stoned. I asked, he was and as a stoner always finds a stoner in any town… It didn’t bother me. He was not my type to look at, but a certain charm… and he played the part well. I was seeing someone and no interest at that time. Although he gave me his number, if I ever wanted a ‘smoke’ with him. After 3 days he text me ” Am I that bad? I didn’t answer. He kept texting until I did !!!I arranged to meet him in the netcafe for coffee the following week. In the mean time he texted constantly! I wasn’t really that flattered, as I know the ‘new girl in town’ attitude here is to see who gets to fuck them first! So I did not think sex/hook up, I just thought, ah, I’ll just get a smoke from him” No problem.
In the meantime, the guy I was seeing found out his ex was giving him custody his 3yr old son! This frightened me … he was talking about what a good mother I would make etc ….whoa!! He was 10yrs younger than me, but I knew I really didn’t want that responsibility. THAT is when I went for a smoke with The King. I spoke about my dilemma, and he asked me how I’d feel about a 26yr old daughter! After a couple of weeks, I ended my relationship on amicable terms. The King mentioned being fed up of casual sex and how all the women who come to the Island are so easy (?) and he was impressed that I was just ”his friend”. He had not attempted to do anything and actually said to me “I invite you out for a smoke. Don’t think I am doing this to get sex, as I have told you, it’s easy to get here! I like to talk to you, there’s something about you… I like that ‘something'”
Yes, I was feeling a bit special at this time. In hindsight he was making sure I did! Unfortunately, he went through some personal grief at this time and I did support him. Just letting him talk and we cuddled. These meetings were no longer in the cafe, he would pick me up from the road where I lived and take me to a hillside, ”so we could smoke without being caught”. After this things started to be ‘closer’ for want of a better word.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So it began on a hillside overlooking the beach. Moonlight… stars … dreams… We talked for hours. There was no planning regarding the sex. Not on my part anyway, (54yrs old and I worked in Sexual Health for 12yrs!) Not an easily excitable woman!!! He started by just cuddling. It went on to a little kissing. He would say things like ‘you’re getting horny… I can feel your heat” I’d laugh it off and say I wasn’t in the mood for casual sex! He’d accept it and said he respected me for that? He constantly texted me nice messages, ‘can’t wait to see you’ etc.
Then I was upset one night. He picked me up and made the biggest joint I’d ever had Plus a few cans of beer(what a cheap date I was lol!)
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were in the car. He listened to me, then looked right at me and just kissed me. I didn’t resist… It felt good. Although I was stoned and vulnerable. He put his hand between my legs and said ”you do want me don’t you?” I didn’t answer, just kissed him again as he was rubbing me… No attempt to go inside!
Then he suddenly had his dick out and said ‘I want you to have this” pushing my head down!! So it started with a BJ. He’s still just touching me. Finally he pulls me into the middle of the front seats lifting up my dress, so my ass is now exposed and the rest of me trapped behind! No orgasm.. wet..but only a starter!!!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I am saying “Where’s the condom? He says “It’s OK, it’s on?” Which I SHOULD have checked then. He moves aside my panties, and proceeds to fuck me. I realize there is no condom. I object and struggle to stop penetration… which excited him more! He put his hand on the back of my neck and pushed me further into the back seat, trapping my ass even tighter between the seats and holding me in position with the force of his hips. Then with one hard push he was in me and fucking me hard ….I realised his other hand was actually on his hip in pose position. He didn’t last long. He leaned over me, held me tight for 10 secs and then withdrew and asked if I had tissues!!!
I was a little in shock and didn’t really know what had just happened. Well, I did of course but what the fuck??? It was so hot too. I really was not prepared for that. He rolled another joint and we smoked without really talking. He did ask if I was OK. I told him I was angry at MYSELF and him for NOT USING A CONDOM! FFS. I DIDN’T tell him I was a little scared at his aggression! I leaned against the window of the car. He pulled me over to him and rested my head on his chest. WTF? Then when the joint was finished he started the car “I hope your on the pill” he said! Gobsmacked I answered ”Good thing I’m old and not fertile!” He knew my business, he knew I was not up for UPSI! BUT he carried on anyway! And I was a fool!
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was enjoying him making me laugh. I felt comfortable with him, before the massive joint and beer kicked in. I guess I was just beginning to think there could be a chance of a ‘relationship’ with him at this point too. He seemed to mimic my emotions? After enjoying each others company nearly every other night for about 3 months!Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A LOT of WEED! And about 4 cans of ex strong beer!
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When he dropped me off at my road … he just said I’ll see you tomorrow and I just said yes OK. I was not sure of my feelings… Did I get anything from it? I was in the shower as soon as I walked in my door! He texted me ”I am so sorry I didn’t give you time… I wanted you so much… I have waited and I got seriously carried away… I do feel bad! Hope you will forgive me!” I was a fool and thought he was passionate about me! DUH!
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? NO ONE!
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It would have been consensual with the condom and no drugs/alcohol…… And yes, it was in a round about way! That sounds bad I’m sure ….. Without the weed/alcohol I would have definitely fought to make him stop with no condom!
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes I do! I was told after seeing again and having just plain sex again, ass between the seats in the car …. “I don’t want a relationship, but this is what we both want, you want it, I know you do. Just do what makes you happy instead of worrying, just do it!” So I did. As I got out the car he said ”You’re sure you know this is nothing, just fun!!” I said ‘yes, sure,’ but I wasn’t telling the truth!
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I stopped seeing him because I couldn’t handle it. He texted me constantly for nearly a year. I gave in. He visited for a booty call. I would leave the door open and go to bed. When he was done in the bars he would turn up have sex and leave. That went on again for 2 yrs. I stopped it again. 5 yrs on and having spent the whole winter season with him everyday, every night, having intercourse only doggie style occasionally, but him always having a BJ and me not even being touched. I said NO MORE BJs. I am done with this. He still came as a friend! I couldn’t cope.
I know I am not in love with him and it wasn’t great sex. Why I did it I still don’t know. He became a drug! But I cannot do the casual sex. Knowing he has had thousands of women, I was just a number to him. His turn on is quantity, not quality! I was forever thinking I had HIV and other stuff and made me mentally sick! It has made me realize that I personally can not do it. I tried it, but it made me feel a lack of self esteem and I felt I had lost any respect he said he had for me. Which I lost for him too! He is a jobless, old man who says he gives sexual experience to all the young hot girls who come to the Island… He has been doing this for 30yrs, so I was a fool to EVEN imagine a relationship with him!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Reflecting back, he was a real charmer in the beginning, he would be so nice to me. Then after sex he would just put his clothes on, say goodnight and leave. No kissing no cuddles NOTHING… IT HURT ME MORE THAN ANYTHING!!! I would have felt better having sex with a tourist who would leave the Island; instead, I went for the KING OF HOOK UPS. That was all he had had for the last 30yrs… He talked to me of telling the tourist girls he met all sorts of stories, so I guess I shouldn’t be upset, but I am! He has a Madonna/whore attitude. All women are whores to him, even to the point he called his mother, daughter and sister this! I do really feel sorry for any girl/woman who encounters him! But I am glad I had this bad experience….. I DID LEARN MORE ABOUT ME FROM IT!
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