What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, OR
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Customer Service Rep
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Lapsed Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Been with a few Women
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60ish, it’s got to be right around there, but I am not sure.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? The summer before
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Carlos was a handsome Latin man, fit and muscular with dark hair and a bit taller than me (most men are). He had a goatee as well and was probably around 40. He was working for my neighbor and I had gone up to him to talk since I was a bit lonely at the time and wanted to practice my Spanish a bit. I felt an instant attraction to him and wanted to be with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Some background here. I was single at the time of this hookup and it had been a while since my last boyfriend. I sleep where I want and when I want, and with whom I want, which is a philosophy I have gone by since I was 17. When I am horny I will find a man (or the occasional chick), take them into my bed and fuck them.
About a year and a half ago I found myself suddenly unemployed following a merger with another company. I didn’t look for work right away and decided to do some traveling, but it wasn’t for a few weeks yet at the time and I found myself spending most of my time at home and a lot of time in my pool.
I had seen Carlos a few times working in my neighbor’s yard and I was a bit lonely. I had decided to go talk to him. I forgot I had a bikini on at the time. He didn’t speak a lot of English but I speak fluent Spanish and we had a conversation about him and his work. Both my neighbour and him were eying me a bit and I liked the attention. I have always liked the attention I get from men.
The next part took me about a week. I made sure to talk to Carlos when I could and was a bit flirty and I caught him watching me in the backyard a few times. I also made sure he got a good look at me sunbathing nude in the back yard the one day. Finally, one morning he knocked on my door and said he couldn’t get me out of his head. It had worked.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I pulled him into my house and started to kiss him right there and we made out. My top came off quick and we ended up on a couch in the living room. He sucked my tits a bit. My preference is to be on top and I finally mounted him and let him inside me. I rode him and he had his hands on my waist but kept grabbing at my tits. I actually had an orgasm first and he did shortly after. He told me he enjoyed being with a white woman and I had to correct him that I was not white and I quickly got the impression this was not a first. Don’t get me wrong, he was eager and enthusiastic and I quite enjoyed myself and needed the release. However, he went back to work shortly after we were done.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next three weeks we hooked up alot, sometimes as much as three times a day and I quite enjoyed myself. I never expected anything with Carlos nor was I looking for it. This was never more than just sex. As I said, I got the impression this was not a first and that he had hooked up with a lonely wife or someone in proximity to who he was working for before. Looking back now when I am not under a sex fueled cloud, I think he might have been married.
One day he was gone suddenly gone and my neighbour said he had just not shown up for work. Not sure if he was here legally now. I had fun with him and was never looking for more than that with Carlos.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never told any one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was pretty hot
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Honestly looking back Carlos didn’t treat me great and he lied to me
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would say it has played a bit part in my life and it does in society as it is shown and advertised all the time. Not sure I want to see anything changed on that.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting
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