What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami, FL
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? None
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, Hispanic, dark hair, wore glasses, big and thick dick, a little on the chubby side. I knew them from high school and we started hooking up my first year of college. I use to have a crush on him in high school but he was the boyfriend to a friend of mine so i never pursed him. We met again in college and he had broken up with his girlfriend.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking and it started to lead to a relationship but he was a very sexual person and I was scared that he only want me for sex and not a relationship. We ended up not getting into a relationship together but we were both sexually frustrated so decided to go into a casual sex relationship. He instigated it and it took me awhile to come around to the idea because I’m a traditional person that only has sex when in relationship.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At that point I was 19 and I hadn’t had a lot of sexual relationships and he opened it up to different positions and kinky things like spanking, cuffs, biting, blindfolds, etc. I had also not had sex outside of the bedroom and we did it in the shower, kitchen, stairs, up against a wall or window. The relationship ended when we were going to try anal. I felt extremely satisfied because he has been my biggest dick. It was great because he was pretty big and thick. He didn’t put any romance or feelings into sex. We did kiss and make out and foreplay but we did not cuddle or anything like that. It ended because our schedules changed and we didnt have time to have sex anymore.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The first time we had sex i felt guilty and dirty but after the third time it started getting better. I started becoming more open to different things and I didnt feel bad about not having a relationship with him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my best friend about it and she wasn’t enthusiastic about it. She was worried that I was going to start having feelings for him.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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