by B-rad

Gender: Male
Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: Mixed black/white
Current location: United States
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Military
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Learning The Hard Way

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? FWB

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She’s a stunningly beautiful woman who has her stuff together. I met her through a mutual friend at a tattoo shop. I wanted to get serious with this girl from the start.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I saw that she was having a rough day and jokingly said I would eat her out if she wanted. Turned out she did and I was at her place after work.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had never had casual sex so I went into it with feelings and confusion. I ate her out and then we fucked for about two hours. I’m allergic to latex (didn’t know when we were screwing) so I didn’t finish and she was done.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I tried to slip in without a condom but she made me use one. And I’m glad I did now.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Sexual tension and just a need for sex.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had a beer or two but nothing heavy.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought we were starting to get serious but I was wrong. She’s not looking for a relationship and I don’t think I need one either. I really like her but it wouldn’t work. I think we’ll still hang out and maybe even hook up.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend. He was excited because now he doesn’t have to hear about her anymore.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Completely consensual, and wanted.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was all the new experiences I’ve learned. The worst was feeling like a fool for not knowing it was casual at the start. I’m more open to casual sex now.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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