What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Married, cautiously exploring opening marriage
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6 now
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Attractive, rugged, muscular, slim, dark complexion and long black hair. Tall, I guess that he was at least 6 foot plus.
I was meeting him that night for the first time. My girlfriend knew him in a roundabout way and thought we’d be a good match.
We were going to meet at a party she was invited to.
Well, I thought that if only half of the things that she told me about him were true, I definitively had ideas of hooking up with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Earlier this month I had a one night stand. It was the first time that I had ever had sex with someone besides my husband. At the time I didn’t tell anyone, but at the instigation of my girlfriend, I confided to her about it. Surprised at her reaction, she was happy for me, told me she had noticed a change, that I seemed happier, more self-assured, more like the woman she first knew and remarked that it did me a world of good.
Then she told me that she was going to attend a Christmas party and she wanted me to come along. She point blank told me that she was setting me up for a hookup. It sort of made me feel a bit giddy and young again as we went all out, hair nails, waxing. We even went to VS and got some sexy lingerie.
So while she was the instigator, it takes much to convince me and jumped right in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I have to admit as soon as I meet him, I knew that I wanted to sleep with him, he was just that good looking and exuded this air of confidence. He didn’t beat around the bush both I don’t think that 15 minutes after talking to him, we hugged, he whispered in my ear how attractive I was and that he wanted to have me. I know the old me would have been embarrassed at this comment but a combination of all of the thinking, the preparation I’d done, all I could do was look up in his eyes and smile and he gave me the sweetest kiss that warmed up my entire body.
We at the party less than an hour, my girlfriend said that she’d put in her appearance and that we should go. I didn’t know where we were going but we got in their car and drove back to her apartment. I made out with him in the back seat. His kisses were passionate and tender and his hands gently explored my body. He ran his hand under my dress to stroked my thigh and paused, he murmured how hot it was that I was wearing thigh highs and then he moved up to my pussy lightly touching my mound.
We got to the apartment, no time was wasted in small talk as we both went directly to the bedrooms. He lifted my dress off and stood back as he wanted to admire my body. I felt shy and exhilarated as he looked at me. Then he removed my bra and panties and we lay on the bed and he kissed me all over. He was fantastic at oral and his tongue was magic, his hand softly rubbed my nipples. I had a powerful orgasm and then I wanted him and began to undress him.
Now it was a little comical for a while as we could hear my girlfriend and her man going at it thru the wall and she is quite vocal. We shared a little laugh about that, but he took his hand and brought my face up to his and said that he hoped he’d get me that excited too.
My lover was white, but his penis was a lovely brown like his complexion, it wasn’t huge but it was thick and he wasn’t circumcised. I hadn’t played with it very long and it was a stiff and oozing and he tasted so good. I thought I should and was ready to reciprocate and get him off on oral but he flipped me on my back and began kissing again and rubbing his penis on my pussy, it just sort of slipped in. Missionary isn’t my favorite position, but when we weren’t kissing we looked at each other’s face see the happiness, which I found erotic and stimulating.
We made love all night. He was great when we rested he’d talk to me, asking me if what felt good for me, if I wanted to do something different. He has the sexist way of saying the nastiest things and getting me to vocalize.
We did it doggy and before he entered me he said baby, moan if you like it, moan faster if you want it faster, moan louder if you want it deeper. I might not have had that many partners but never had anyone ask me how I wanted it
We ended up sleeping naked, wrapped together, nice and warm, comfy, sexy, sweaty, blissfully exhausted.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? They had to leave in the morning. My girlfriend drove them back to get their car and picked up coffee and doughnuts. We sat at her kitchen table smoked and laughed. Yes, like a couple of teenagers we talked about the night. I joked about how she must have enjoyed herself as she was so loud. She gave me this fake indignant look and said at least I wasn’t begging for my partner to cum inside me. I chuckled and said no I didn’t and then she said I wish that I had a tape recorder as it sounded like we were making a porn movie.
I had no expectations of a future with this person. It was enormously satisfying in that my partner was a generous, patient and gifted lover. I guess that I have been very lucky in that aspect. If I had the chance to hook up with him again I wouldn’t turn him down, but my guess is that he has a few other women.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Like I said my girlfriend and I spent all morning talking about our adventures. She was very happy for me, she was well aware of my situation at home and said that it was about time that I did something for myself. She even began planning our next adventure, that was sort of fun, but I had to nip that. That’s where our conversation got a bit more serious about what direction I needed to go with my life.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’d be lying if I didn’t say that the sex was out of this world, it was fabulous!!
So good in fact that it blocked out any lingering feelings of guilt or regret that might have crept in.
Also, I have made my mind up to have that serious conversation with my husband.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The worst thing is that despite the planning to practice safe sex, I didn’t. He didn’t mention anything about that and I got carried away in the moment, In fact, my girlfriend was right, I did want him to finish inside of me. I know that I can’t get pregnant, but call me naïve since I never really had a varied sex life, I just didn’t think about STD’s. I’m glad that my OB-GYN is an understanding woman that trust as I got to go back in for tests again, so embarrassing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I know that I have to talk with my husband. He has said on other occasions that we should open our relationship.
I know that everything is all of his fault.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup?
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I didn’t think that I’d be “out there so soon after my first indiscretion. I have said that if I didn’t have sex again I would not care, but obviously, I was wrong. I think that I missed the freedom to share my body with another caring man. That alone is so empowering. I grew up in a repressive atmosphere, got married young, and didn’t have the right attitude on family. I raised 5 children and I love them dearly but felt they held me back. These last 2 experiences have taught and made me think more than 3 years of therapy and marriage counseling ever did.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it. I think that it has empowered me
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