What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 58
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Attorney
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 80
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 8

Light My Fire

How long ago did this hookup happen? September 2017

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was in her late 20s, very sexual and very hot. We met her and her husband at a BDSM house party thrown by some friends of ours. It was the first time we ever met them.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The host of the party invited everyone into his dungeon to give a BDSM demonstration. A sexy blonde female took off her clothes, was strapped to a device and he very carefully sprayed an alcohol mixture on various parts of her body and lit the mixture on fire. She was not harmed in any way. He is an expert at doing this. He then whipped her while she was restrained. Everyone found this quite arousing and fascinating. She seemed to be enjoying herself as she came multiple times while being restrained.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After the first BDSM demonstration, another sexy blonde female wanted the same treatment. During her whipping and fire demo, the sexy young girl I had been flirting with started making out with a gorgeous naked girl in the dungeon. I joined them and we had many oral pleasures together. The naked girl ended up being fucked by her husband while another female joined in the mix. My girlfriend watched the entire scene but did not participate. When the two of us got home, I fucked her really hard and made her cum multiple times as we were both incredibly turned on from the BDSM orgy.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We exchanged numbers and talked some more about how much fun the scene was. Have not talked since but will probably run into each other again at another house party.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends, they were impressed.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Playing with a 20 something hot girl plus two other smoking hot girls in a dungeon.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This makes me want more casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? BDSM orgies are very fun. Like an alternative universe.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex and I think our society would be a LOT happier if more people engaged in it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!

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