What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Very sexual person
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? A month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner is about 23 years, 6’3 and very muscular build. We started hoooking up off and on in November of 2014 through May of 2015. We met at a party and he graduated at the end of May. I have always been very attracted to him but our communication was always very limited. On 10/9/15 he came to visit for homecoming.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We saw each other and it was weird because we hadn’t exactly ended our hooking up on good terms before he graduated. But all of that flew out the window when we saw each other. I could tell that he wanted me more than ever. I went over and said hi to him and asked if he wanted to come with me to take some adderal. He said yes and we headed to my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to my room and snorted the addy. Then almost immediately we began kissing. Soon both of our clothes were coming off and we we got into bed. The naked make out session lasted for a while and then he began to eat me out. We then fucked using several positions including missionary, cowgirl and doggy style. It was probably the best sex we’ve had together and we had hooked up 7+ times before this. It was just really good to see him again. Afterwards we talked for a while about our lack of communication and how he had treated me like shit last semester. He apologized and said I was amazing. We got dressed and went to smoke a blunt. While outside we ended up fucking in the backseat of his car and then behind one of the academic buildings as well( this was out in the open so someone could have easily seen us). We went back to my room and had sex until maybe 4 or 5 in the morning. We slept and cuddled a awoke up and he fingered me and we had sex again. He left around 12.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, Power / Dominance
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Adderall
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Adderal
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my close friends about it and they sort of expected it to happen. Everytime he comes around we end up fucking.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? He treated me badly in the past and hooked up with this other girl that is like my archenemy and he even got me pregnant in April ( I had a miscarriage) which I hadn’t told him about at this point. Part of me wishes that when I saw him sitting in that couch that I would have had the strength to keep walking but we have some sort of connection that neither of us can ignore.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We got to sort out some of our issues and it was good to see him again.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Worst thing was that I lowkey expected more after it. For example I wanted him to reach out and contact me but he never did.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope, I like to have sex and I have sex with whomever I want to. It was a bit of a challenge for myself to see if he would hookup with me again and I won.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We hooked up again this past Saturday and exchanged info and he followed me on Twitter( I had blocked him previously) so we are in a good place now I think. I told him about the miscarriage and he took it harder than expected. He said he wants me to visit him over thanksgiving break.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great as long as it is safe and consentual. It is a pretty big part of my life just because I am a very sexual person but I ahead no significant other so I get to hookup with whomever I want. I know it college “hookup culture” is very common and very few people actually want a relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s cool to read other people’s stories.
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