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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 23
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 7
How long ago did this hookup happen? Feb 2015
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her in dance class. I dance Lindy Hop and she attended an event for beginners. Normally guys are a minority and she was on her own, so I choose her to dance with, or to be precise, I asked her, if she needed a guy, and she said yes. Let’s call her Nana. She’s pretty tall, 6ft and very thin with A-cups, or less, about 2 years older than me. Normally not my type, but very pretty face and after I saw her naked, I thought she’s beautiful (well, I generelly think woman are beautiful after I’ve been intimate with them, no matter how they look exactly.)
You change partners during dance class all the time, but she got back to me and told me, she wanted to dance again, since I was her favourite. Of course I did. We exchanged numbers after the event and met each other a couple of times again on different occasions. One night it was already getting pretty hot between us, talking about masturbation but her colleague totally blocked it. I don’t like the guy since then. It was totally obvious we had it going, but he insisted on bringing her home AS WELL, after I told him I had it covered. Douche bag. Anyways…
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day during the week I picked her up after work, we had a drink and I drove a bit around the city. I went to a spot with a nice view, we talked and started making out at some point, which was really nice and emotional. We remained in our seats, me driving, so it was quite tricky to get hold of each other. I drove her back to hers and was super horny but she declined but suggested to meet up for some dance practices at my places, which is spacey enough to do some dancing. I looked up some instructions videos and she came over the next weekend. A male friend of mine came over as well, which was fine, cause we started the dance thing together and teached each other some moves. After 2 hours I thought it’s time to proceed so I hinted my friend to leave, which he was fine with.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After he left we started making out again and pretty much stripped each other done right away and were all over each other. She gave me a semi good head, I ate her out, but it was pretty obvious she was not too responsive concerning her vagina. We had pretty sporty sex and since she was not tight at all I was able to fuck her hard for some time (30min-45min I guess). At some point she asked me, if I liked anal. I didn’t do anal since then and asked her about it. She said, she doesn’t really feel anything while having vaginal sex or it doesn’t get her going. It led to a very funny conversation whether I was too small (I’m pretty average but a bit larger in girth and confident that it’s alright, so I could laugh about it). She said it doesn’t matter, but anal get’s her going. So I told her to get on top and do her thing. And she did. Wow. I had to stop her at some point and told her to slow down, if she wanted to extend the action. I basically layed down for half an hour, she rode me, masturbated and we fucked anal and she came a couple of times. After she was done she asked me to finish off as well (I had to stop her a couple of times since I was about to cum), I positioned her in doggy and finished off in a condom.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about the anal thing again which I was pretty curious about, cuddled and at some point she just pushed me away, since she wanted to get to sleep. I really liked that. She didn’t even try getting to sleep cuddling (which I don’t mind), but I never had a woman basically telling me, she wants to sleep on her own. I thought that was hot.
We had Sex on two other occasions, once at mine, once at hers (in the shower), skipping vaginal and doing anal right away. After the last meet up she told me that she wants to end the thing since she was not into some sort of romance at this point. I told her prior that I was more into open things. We still see each other every now and then and get along very good. I really like her and have come to the point that she might be a potential girl friend. We haven’t seen each other that much lately, but I’m glad it well smooth so far.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The friend who was there for the dancing. He’s relaxed, likes her as well but was prettty neutral, since he knows about my lifestyle.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First time anal, emotional connection, that we’re still getting along very well.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
It brought some new thoughts about sex in general. The anal thing was new to me. I knew that some guys are very much into it but woman not that much. Since then I do ask woman, if they like anal but I’m not going for it with any needs. I liked it though. Could have been a pussy as well, but in this case, I wouldn’ve been able to come in her vagina while wearing a condom. Furthermore I came to the conclusion that bigger woman might acually be tighter than thin woman. It’s not a representative test group I’ve had so far, but there are hints that this might be the case. I’ll keep up the research 🙂
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? One thing I’ve come to while writing it down was, I was able to keep a good relation with a lot of hook ups I’ve had, what I’m glad about. I was honest about my intentions and it never caused any drama so far. Hope it stays this way.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Curiosity is a good thing. Explore yourself and others.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Helps me freshing up my english skills.
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