by Van

Gender: Genderqueer
Age: 32
Location: California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Lingering Chemistry

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a week

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met last year at a party and dated briefly. We found that we didn’t have compatible relationship needs and broke up, with a bit of annoyance on my part, but I got over that and we settled into a fairly casual friendship.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As we spent time in each other’s company a while after we broke up, we realized that we still had sexual chemistry. Lingering hugs led to smooches, and finally to a brief but passionate makeout session the first time we happened to be alone together. I figured maybe we should actually do something about that, so I suggested we make plans to get together sometime soon.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The chemistry between us wasn’t quite as (unusually) intense as it had been when we were dating, but the sex was still very similar. He was the same sweet and considerate lover as ever, and we both got off and both (as far as I could tell) had a nice time. We didn’t talk much during, but we hung out for a while afterward chatting about books.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom, but I think we just kind of assumed our STI history was the same as it had been before.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My body was telling me “hey, we’re not done with this person quite yet,” and in this particular case it seemed like there was no reason not to listen.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Nope.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We haven’t yet seen each other socially again, but probably will soon. I feel the same kind of friendly affection for him that I did before, and I imagine we might hook up again, if we still feel like it and if it’s convenient.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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