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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 68
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? California
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100-200
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4 or 5

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? M is about 60, lithe and fit

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? M and I are friends at work, where we both are leaders of our groups. We have known each other for more than 25 years and have been sexual together regularly for about 5 years, but are both in supposedly monogamous marriages. Sometimes we manage to get away for a weekend together and a few days ago, she suggested that we do so again. So, we drove up to the mountains after work on Friday.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After a long week and a long drive, I was looking forward to a low key weekend and thought that we would probably just go to sleep. So, once we settled into our room, I took my shower, got ready for the night and tucked myself into bed. M takes a little longer with all this, but I was still awake when she was ready for bed. The air is dry here, due to altitude, and she offered me a welcome drink of water and took some too, before turning off the light. As usual, we lay facing and holding each other, but having spent four hours talking during the drive, there was little conversation. Quietly we caressed each other, gently rubbing each others backs, cheeks, arms, buttocks, chests. She’s smooth as silk and I’m rough and hairy, so its pretty sensual. Her nipples became erect, her Vulva swelled, and she had the small spastic tremors that she experiences when excited. I was pleasantly erect myself. We kissed lightly, I love to kiss her closed eyes, and softly stroked each others genitals. Soon she guided my penis between her labia to massage her clitoris, which we love to do. It was sweet, warm, wet and unending. We continued like this for what seemed eternity, then rolled back and resumed caressing each other. Soon she was softly stroking my shaft. “Its so big”, she said, more than once. That pretty much ensured the hardness of his erection and I lay back as she climbed on me cowgirl style bringing the head of my penis to her vagina. But she was tight, so we played it in and out, gradually increasing the depth. As I finally slid into her, she gasped and said, “It feels different”. We began to thrust and rock forcefully and I raised my pelvis off the bed. “It fells like a rocket is going through me”, she said and then she began to shudder constantly and gasp louder than I’ve ever heard her before. We both came with our whole bodies contracting and when she collapsed on me, we went to sleep with my penis still inside her. When we woke up, we had dried and sticky sex fluids holding us together. “I never felt that before, it was like a rocket inside me”, she said again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We slept soundly, in each other’s arms, as we often do. This morning we went out for coffee, then to a resort and skied. We’re both married and open to relationships with others. But we are friends and I expect that we will continue to make love whenever we can

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one except M

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Affectionate sex between friends

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It can only occur intermittently

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have another night together, tonight
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What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Its been part of human experience since there have been humans and is an important and satisfying element in most people’s lives, at least some of the time. Even if a couple chooses monogamy, that is rarely their only experience of sexuality for their whole life. Whether committed to exclusivity or open to multiple partners, the most important thing is to be clear with your partners about the level of your engagement and to be sensitive to theirs.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its anecdotal

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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