What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Eindhoven
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

Looking straight into her soul

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had known each other for many years. Our friendship started by chatting online (MSN messenger). We talked about lots of issues, about our personal lives, society and politics. Later on our talks became more about our sexual experiences and erotic dreams. We also started to share our favorite porn videos with each other.

Some years earlier I had visited her in her city but nothing has happened then. During the course of time the plan evolved to meet each other in real live and to fulfill our sexual dreams.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? For our first erotic meeting, she travelled to my city, where I caught her from the train and we had a quick informal meal. Together we drove to the south of the Netherlands for a night out in a casino. After the night out we had planned to sleep in a hotel.

We entered our room very late and were both very tired. She went sitting on her bed and after a moment of not knowing what to do, I started to sit next to her and to massage her feet and to slowly undress her. We made out a bit and I was especially charmed by her beautiful breasts and nipples. Then we felt asleep lying very close to each other.

The next morning started with some cuddling. She allowed me to finger her, but did not want to have intercourse. To my surprise, she showed raised interest to finger her anally, which was a totally new experience for me. It made her cum several times. At the end of the morning, we did have breakfast and I drove her to the railway station.

We had planned to see each other again within two weeks. She invited me to her place. When I arrived she took me to a small restaurant where we enjoyed a tasteful meal and each other’s company. Then she invited me to her apartment.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After we entered her room she walked to her window with a view to the neighboring buildings in full light. She wore a nice dress. I started to touch her and to undress her in full light. She enjoyed my touches very much and was shivering. Her legs were shaven and very smooth to touch. Her scent was overwhelming. She took me to her bed and lay down on her stomach totally naked before my eyes.

One of our dreams was that she wanted to be blindfolded, which I did. Then I started to give her a massage with oil. Slowly, I undressed myself and let her feel more and more of my skin. I took my time to spoil her nice body, and approached more and more her wet inner tights. On a certain moment, the time to fuck had come and I took my chance to fuck her in all possible positions, later on without the blindfold, but still with some lights on and the curtains open. It was no question I fucked her with a condom as I knew she was not on any birth control. We both had several orgasms that night.

As soon as the daylight broke in the next morning, we started to cuddle and kiss and touch each other again. She was amazing and soft and I was overwhelmed by her scent and beauty. She spontaneously climbed above me and the sensation of kissing, eye contact and skin on skin with her nice breasts before my eyes and lips was just amazing. In the same way as we endlessly kissed, my penis and her vagina were also playing and rubbing gently against each other. On a certain moment of inattention, my uncovered penis simply slipped in her soaking wet wide open inviting vagina. It was the most incredible, amazing feeling to be inside her. The sudden experience of being totally naked outside and inside with a girl I liked so much is an experience I never had felt ever in my life before.

What happened during the next hour or so was making electric love in the purest sense of meaning. We changed position to missionary. She lifted her knees and legs for a better thrust inside her warm, wet pussy. I hold her hands so she only could move her hips and we looked each other straight in our souls. We did not only fuck but also took our times not to move and just to enjoy the eager kisses and the merger of our bodies together. Her inner pussy alone was stroking and pulsing my penis which felt stiff like a rock compared with her flexible soaking softness.

On a certain moment, I was nearing an orgasm. Then I started to doubt whether I should finish deep inside her, which actually was my deepest wish. But I knew she was not on birth control, so the risk I could make her pregnant became real. I also did have a girlfriend who wanted to marry me and with whom I dreamed to have a child with for many years. So I decided on the very last moment to withdraw. I remember my withdrawal really did hurt in a way. I also saw her disappointment in her eyes. Immediately after I had my withdrawal I did regret this decision. Even after so many years, I am wondering why I found it instantly a bad idea to avoid making this adored girlfriend pregnant as she seemed to wish.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was also the last time we had sex. She was already dating somebody else and did not want to have a second lover, which I had to respect. She gave birth to her first child with him 3 years later, in the same month my wife gave birth to my first child. She contacted me inbetween with the promise that one time she would contact me again as soon as she was bored with her actual boyfriend, but this moment has not yet been reached. If I get a new chance, I sure will not avoid anymore any new possibility as a second chance to make her pregnant.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A good friend

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Entering her without any protection

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The withdrawal

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I am looking out for more experiences like this.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Nice and inspiring to read

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