by: Dutchie

Gender: Male
Age: 35
Current location: Netherlands
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Manager
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Losing All Inhibitions

How long ago did this hookup happen? One year ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Bang bang party

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A huge group of people, about 200 men and 30 women, aged 20 to 60, from all walks of life. It included attractive and unattractive women, skinny and fat, young and old. The guys were equally varied. I had not met any of them before. The only thing we had in common was that we were all interested in partaking in a bang bang with multiple guys per woman. There was a feeling of mutual respect towards both the men and women, as everyone including the women were there for fun, no one was getting paid for sex. It felt like being part of a secret club of like minded people doing something that is considered frowned upon in society, but in essence is harmless to those involved.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I wanted to explore my sexual fantasies and a bang bang was top of my list. Online I found an ad of a woman running a sex club who was organizing gang bang parties on a monthly basis, apparently already for 20 years. She has a network of female friends who love getting banged by groups of men. The event was professionally organized and men have to pay an entrance fee which includes drinks for the evening and some snacks. The women do not have to pay, but they are not getting paid either, all sex is voluntary and non-commercial. Online I read some experiences of others so I had a pretty good idea of what it would be like. I signed up via e-mail, got confirmation, and just showed up at the right place in the beginning of the evening. It was a pretty big event, and I had trouble trying to find a spot to park the car and there was a small line of guys waiting to get inside. After paying the entrance fee I was shown to a locker. The dress code was men in boxers or just a towel, ladies in lingerie.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The club had two stories and on the ground floor people were hanging out at the bar, just talking. I went upstairs which is where the action took place. There were multiple play rooms. I went into one where a 20 something lady was laying on her back with her boyfriend right near her. She was surrounded by about 10 men who were looking while she was getting fucked by one guy, while blowing another. It was an incredibly hot, sweaty and horny situation. After a few minutes the guy fucking started to come, he pulled out, removed his condom and came over her body. Then the next guy started fucking her. She enjoyed it, sometimes looking at who was fucking her, sometimes not. Her boyfriend encouraged her and seemed to like seeing his girl being ecstactic. I maneuvered myself closer to her, which was a bit weird as I did bump up to some other guys that were naked, watching her. I had already grabbed a condom which were available throughout the club. After the other guy came, I started fucking her missionary style. The idea of fucking this attractive girl while we were watched by a group of other guys really turned me on. I came pretty quickly, quicker than I had wanted, and I came in the condom while inside her. I got up and the next guy took his turn, and I took a break. Later that evening I saw a woman in a sex swing, in her late thirties, with short blond hair. Again she was getting fucked by a group of men. After I while it was my turn and started fucking her. She was still in the swing, and I could fuck her standing. She looked at me and asked me to fuck her hard, and this time I did last longer before coming. Afterwards I walked around, with fucking going on everywhere. Later than night I again went into a room, this time fucking a woman doggy style. I had no idea what she looked like or how old she was, it was a dimly lit room. I guess she was in her forties perhaps. By this time, I had done enough fucking, so I took a shower and returned home.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had three orgasms, and the women might have, I don’t know.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history?: Everyone used condoms for fucking, and for blowjobs some did, some didn’t.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to explore a fantasy and this was a safe and accessible way of doing it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I felt still very much impressed of the incredible level of horniness that was there. It was an anonymous event with no strings attached.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told no one, as I expect that people would be judgmental.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely voluntary. The women were treated with respect and were the focus of attention. So even though some liked to be submissive, it was within the context of respect for each other.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is that it made me appreciate wide wide range of female sexuality and the fun in exploring how you can enjoy your own body and make other enjoy theirs. I learned that some couples have found a way to enjoy sex with others without becoming jealous. The worst thing is perhaps that while this was an awesome experience, it needs to be kept hidden out of sight, as most people in society would not accept this as a normal way of enjoying sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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