What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Marketing Specialist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bicurious but mostly straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Losing My Virginity
How long ago did this hookup happen? Today
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy on a hookup site. He was a year older than me, maybe 5’11”, brown hair, and a dad-bod.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had a put an ad out on an anonymous dating site to lose my virginity. I’m older and have never put much sentimental value towards it and was just thinking that it was time. He’d responded and we chatted before I built up the courage to invite him over for some time in the hot tub and maybe more. I honestly hadn’t planned on losing it for sure.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After getting out of the tub I flipped on the TV and we watched a mindless show. Eventually, he made a move and started feeling up my leg. To be honest, my sexual experience was super limited so even that felt pretty good. The little bit of feeling up eventually turned into making out (which was weird because we weren’t in the right positions) before he put his hands on my tits and pussy. I moved my hand over to his dick secretly hoping for a long one and came up a little shorter than I thought it would. First, I was touching him over his sweats and then he moved my hand directly to his dick. I hadn’t played with a dick before so for me it was fun. The way the skin moves around and feeling his vein twerk was interesting. At this point, he was sucking my nipples with his tongue and my underwear was off. Sometimes he’d hit the clit just right and it was glourious. He could reach places and utilize angles that I had a hard time doing myself. After a bit of this, I asked to suck his dick. I’d never done it before and he was kinda small so I thought it would be a good time to figure it out. He was clean from the hot tub and I didn’t think his precum had a bad flavor. I actually kind of liked sucking him. He was warm but hard, easy for me to get good suction and to flick my tongue under the head of his dick. He said I was good at it. I took a break midway through just using my hand hoping he would offer to 69 or reciprocate or something. No such luck. At this point, I decided that we should just fuck. I asked him if he had a condom and he said yes but in his car so I told him to go get it. I put myself in a missionary position on the couch and continued paying with myself as he did. He came back, put the condom on and stuck it in. It felt pretty good, and I was definitely wet, but I definitely prefer my dildo and vibrator. He remarked how I was going to make him cum and asked if I like to switch positions. We changed to doggy-style and he came pretty quick from there. We barely laid there 5 minutes before he was putting on his pants to leave.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I guess I’m a bit disappointed he left right away. I didn’t even get a quick kiss or hug out the door. It was just over.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Everyone else was/is doing it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I called my best friend afterwards, she just told me to give it a day and see if he texts. I’m not that worried about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I guess because maybe I should have waited and let it happen more naturally.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’m not a virgin anymore and I found out I’m pretty decent at sucking dick and don’t mind it at all, kind of like it actually.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that it ended to abruptly and he didn’t even try to reciprocate oral sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I guess I realize now it’s a lot easier to have sex that I initially thought.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex can be good and I’m glad it was an option for me.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it. It expands my horizons and makes casual sex more normalized.
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