What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Nursing Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? About 3 weeks ago.
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was an Arabian guy, tall, dark brown hair. He wasn’t really attractive to me, not the usual type of guy I would be into, but I think that’s what gave me the confidence to meet him: that I was more attractive than him. Not to sound vain.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met this guy on tinder and he was extremely flirty straight away. He would always ask me things like “when are you going to let me see you” and “come see me” so I knew what he really wanted. We texted each other like this for a few weeks and I learned he lived around 5 minutes from me, but I was way too busy with university assignments and studying to actually go see him, until recently.
He instigated it, though I was okay with that. I asked him if he would still want to see me if he knew I was a virgin (I’m not sure why I thought this mattered so much, I guess there are stigmas and judgments around being a virgin so I thought he’d stop texting me after I told him) but he was super cool with it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I didn’t have a free house and neither did he. I waited till my dad and brother were sleeping, mum works night shifts so she wasn’t home, only my sister was awake watching Netflix but that was fine. I took a shower and moisturized and to make myself presentable, and texted him my address, he said he’ll come to pick me up in 20. I wore a sexy lace bra and a black Calvin Klein thong under my shirt and leggings. He texted me about five minutes later instead of 20 telling me he’s here. I snuck out the house and he told me what his car looked like but it was easy to find even though it was dark because his car was on. I got into his car and remember smelling weed straight away. He asked me how I was and what I’d been up to, we talked for a few minutes and then he asked me if I knew a place we could go to. I told him there’s a car park near the local park, and directed him there. I remember there were still some people and cars there even though it was around 0030, so that made me nervous. We parked really far from them so it wasn’t too bad.
We talked a little more and then he saw my shirt had “baby girl” written on it and he commented on it and kissed me. We were still in the front seats so it wasn’t the best kiss, or maybe he wasn’t a good kisser. But soon after he asked if I wanted to hop into the backseat so we both went to the back and went back to kissing. I then got on top of his lap and started to grind his crotch while kissing his lips and neck. I could tell he was getting aroused, I could feel his length harden underneath me. He wasn’t really taking as much control as I’d hoped he would, or maybe he wanted to enjoy me grind on him more but I said “we should get undressed” and he chuckled a little and said I was “going hard”. We both got undressed, I kept my bra and panties on and got back onto his lap. This time he felt me up more which I liked, he asked if he could see my tits as he squeezed them, so I took off my bra and he seemed to like them, though he didn’t lick my nipples, unfortunately. He asked me if I wanted to give him a blowjob and I agreed, I wanted to be good even though it was my first time doing so. I started by licking his length from bottom to top before slipping the head into my mouth. I started slow, gradually getting faster and he thrust his hips a little, making sure I was okay with it. I wasn’t used to having it so deep so I did gag a little, but I think that felt good for him. I felt so in control at the time, he didn’t know what I was going to do while going down on him. I started sucking his balls and he started moaning more, which turned me on heaps. His dick felt really stiff after a while of giving head and he asked me if I could grab a condom from his wallet in the front. He put it on and told me to turn around. So I got into doggy position and he was like “wow, look at this” and felt my ass which turned me on more. He slid off my panties and played with my clit a little. I was pretty nervous that he was going to enter me doggy-style, prior to this hookup I always google’d and read about people’s stories about first time sex and in general I got the idea that missionary would hurt less. But anyway I was too shy to ask him though. He asked me if I was ready, which was nice of him, and I said yes. He struggled a little finding the right hole so I guided his dick to the right spot, and he struggled to push it in (I was really tight and it kept slipping out), so he started grinding on my pussy a bit more to get me wetter. I told him he could use my lube, and he said he already had some so he used it and this time he pushed really hard in. It didn’t hurt for me despite what I’d heard it would be like, maybe I felt a brief second of pain but that’s it, maybe because I’d done penetrative masturbation before having intercourse, I’m not sure. He was breathing heavy now, slowly pushing in and out and it felt so good. He grabbed onto my ass and started going faster and faster, and damn it felt amazing. I was moaning so much and it seemed to turn him more, I loved it when he’d thrust it in fast and then pull it out slowly.
We fucked in almost every position.
I turned around and we were in missionary position, he played with my tits while fucking me and I was in heaven. He put both my legs on his shoulder and went really deep, I got on to my side with one leg up also. I’m surprised at how many positions we could do despite being in the back of his car. At this point, the car windows had fogged up from our breathing and it was getting a little hot, which surprised me since it was a really cold night. He opened a couple windows just a little to let some air in and I could tell he was exhausted. I felt bad because I forgot he’d be tired from doing all the work so I told him to lie down and I got on top of him. I kissed him some more first and he had his hands on my ass, he seemed to like my ass the best. Anyway, I slid his dick in slowly and started fucking him, he began to thrust while I was on top and it was so good. He did one big thrust and kept my hips down with his hands and I rolled my hips around before starting again.
I was hoping he would fuck me some more, I was close to an orgasm but he asked me to give him another blowjob. I didn’t mind though, I was thoroughly enjoying it. He came on his stomach and my mouth a little and I was going to clean up his dick a little but he pulled me up to kiss him. We were both panting and we laughed as we collapsed on the seat.
He helped me find my underwear and drove me back to my place. He kissed me goodnight in his car and then said he’d love to do it again sometime if I was okay with it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I had started an internship/placement a couple days later so I couldn’t see him. I’m still doing the placement, he’s asked me multiple times but I’ve had to decline even though I want to. I plan to meet him after I finish in a couple days!
Our “relationship” is strictly sex only. I don’t and won’t have any feelings for him, as he doesn’t have feelings for me and I want to keep it that way. I don’t see myself in a serious relationship with him, it’s just casual sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only told my best friend, who is living in The Netherlands. She was super happy and proud of me. We were both virgins before, and since she still is a virgin she asked me a lot of questions. I didn’t mind, of course, I would’ve been the same if she had sex before me.
Girls are girls!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Mostly seeing and hearing how turned on he was. And of course, the sex was fantastic. Loved when he got rough.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was a little disappointed that he didn’t go down on me, I wanted to know what it felt like, I’m sure it would have been amazing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before this hookup, I was a little unsure about casual sex, especially with someone I don’t know well or at all. But now I think it’s great, as long as I feel like I can trust the person and we are both being safe during sex, I don’t see what’s really negative about casual sex as some people say.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Before having sex for the first time I came to the Casual Sex Project and read some stories about tinder hookups and first time sex. It was really interesting to read about other people’s experiences. The casual sex project is a great way of sharing stories anonymously.
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