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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Arts
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? With prefernece to women
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35 (I think)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Losing my Virginity on Mardi gras Night

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? E, lets call her that, was a large girl I met at a nightclub that night. She had black hair and a really strong fake tan. Honestly she wasn’t really my type, but at the time (19) I was sick of being a virgin and just wanted to lose my virginity. I was quite insecure at the time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at a club literally at the time it was closing, and ended up back at her flat with some of her friends, and we made out. Then we ended up going back to my place which was about five minutes away. There was no real planning involved, though I’d say we both instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was at community college at the time and was living in student accommodation. I had a room in a shared flat with a 3/4 bed. We went to my bed and started making out and undressing. E then told me to turn the lights off, which I did. There was some general fooling around (I remember kissing her neck) and we got undressed. I did try to put a condom on but ballsed it up and as she was quite drunk she told me not to worry about it. So, absolutely terrified, and not completely hard I might add, I valiantly stabbed away at her vagina with my penis. While I’d like to say we never actually had proper sex, I did manage to get a decent way inside her, so much so that we were actually able to have sex for all of thirty seconds before I realized I was going to cum. She told me not to do it inside her so I pulled out and came on the bed. I know that shit doesn’t work but again, insecure 19 year old desperate to lose their virginity.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I walked her about halfway home, we shared an awkward kiss and I came home again. I’ll admit I felt elated to finally say I had done it, but did feel regret as it was a very bad one night stand, and she was definately not my type. In some of the stories that follow a type may become obviously apparent. Looking back I honestly don’t think about it much. I had another bad hookup with a girl from that club before I met a girlfriend there and after a few weeks had proper sex with her, which was completely different, but not really relevant for this site as it was a relationship.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Peer pressure

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends at the time knew but they didn’t really know her so none of them really bothered about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? It was just meaningless and I wish I’d waited to be with someone else. I’m a lot more confident and comfortable in myself now and know I didn’t have to rush it. But C’est la vie.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Losing my virginity.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Meaningless borderline sex with a girl I wasn’t really attracted to.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? There is a lot of pressure on young people to lose their virginity especially amongst young people and their peers. I wish I had waited but I can’t change the past. Plus I have a pretty decent sex life now.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think E had a boyfriend as some guy was calling her throughout our time together and she had an argument on the phone with him on the way back. As a rule I don’t try to screw with other people’s relationships, though I doubt it was healthy and I have a feeling if it hadn’t been me it would have been someone else. Doesn’t excuse it though.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I guess casual sex isn’t for everyone, but it can be great for some people with their self esteem and even a desire to feel…well…desired.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like this website, reading other stories really helps me discover more about the culture of casual sex.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!