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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? South Africa
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Losing my virginity in a threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My best friend. A girl who I’ve known for just over a year.
A guy that was my best friend’s fuck buddy. He was a year above me at school but we never spoke or interacted at all.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning. It was my farewell party and she invited him to the club where the party was. We got in his car planning to go somewhere else and he suggested that we go have a threesome.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started with a kiss between me and my best friend. Then, she got under the covers and started getting him hard and he put on a condom. While this was happening, he started fingering me. Then, he started having sex with me. He then stopped and we starting giving him a blowjob simultaneously. He loved it. Then, she got on top of him and they started having sex. I was so drunk that I was just lying there, and I couldn’t help listen to the sounds that she was making. Then she came and she said he will too. So he decided he was going to cum inside me. Me and my friend starting kissing while he came over and entered me. We had sex and he came.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt and still feel completely awkward. Images and sounds that my friend was making are still in my mind and I don’t think you should see your friend in such an intimate way.

I also feel weird that that was the first time I’d ever had sex. He didn’t know I was a virgin before but she did.

To them, it was just a fun, different experience but to me it was a big deal.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Ive only told 4 of my friends. They were all completely shocked because it’s out of character for me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? It was my first time and it should have been with someone who actually liked me, someone who knew it was my first time and it should have only been with me and one other person.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I gained a lot of experience for after, in a way I kind of feel cooler than other people who haven’t had a threesome.
Also, I’m confident that I’m straight so it was empowering to have such an experience and still be sure that I’m straight afterwards.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Seeing/hearing my best friend having sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s made me more open to having casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve never been a fan of it purely because I know I would get too attached to the person and it wouldn’t be casual for me.
If you can have sex with absolutely no feelings attached then go for it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’ve never heard of it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!