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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? pizza restaurant employee
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? bicurious, pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Lost My Virginity on MDMA

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I worked with Gina at a restaurant when I was 17 and she was around the age of 19. I had a crush on her and we hung out on multiple occasions as friends but she had a boyfriend. I quit that job but 1 year later I reunited as friends with Gina. She was single then but I wasn’t aware until I started hanging out with her again. Before our first hookup we took molly so before we took the Molly I brought condoms knowing how things often happen on MDMA but didn’t expect anything to happen. Gina was very sexy especially while on MDMA. She was tall and pretty thin.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Gina and I were on MDMA and smoking weed. We were rolling pretty hard so I asked Gina if she wanted to cuddle and she agreed so we went to the bedroom, I started kissing Gina and touching her, I couldn’t help myself. Gina was so beautiful. As we began to kiss away in Gina asked me if I wanted to fuck and I agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex for around 6 hours straight. We couldn’t help ourselves. We had oral and vaginal sex, she came multiple times but I couldn’t, likely a result of the MDMA. I lost my concentration and got soft multiple times during sex.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The 6 months following the hook up have been the best 6 months of my life.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told friends about the encounter and they were interested by the story and supportive.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Gina and I live together and are dating and have not been able to get enough of each other since this hookup occurred 6 months ago.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? none at all

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I see the value of casual sex in starting relationships and the sexuality of MDMA and other psychedelics.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I will remember this night forever and this night led to more sexual encounters with and without drugs.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I lost my virginity in safe sex and I see the value but at the same time I am a needy person so casual sex isn’t for me. Casual sex, however, can be a very good thing but often has other consequences such as STDs, nonconsensual encounters, and broken hearts.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a good idea do show people there is no normal or one size fits all in terms of sexuality.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!