What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I have male body parts, but feel very female at times
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 80+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 5
Love Between Girls
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last weekend
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? B, is a long time friend of mine. We used to be go to school together. She is tall, blonde, with a nice womanly figure. She is my age. B. is the first person I confided that I am more interested in men than girls. We have kissed and cuddled while we were in high school, but we never had proper intercourse, because I really wanted to be gay.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a high school reunion. B. lives in France now so she asked me whether she could stay at my place over the weekend. I picked her up Saturday morning. We had brunch together before we went to the party. There were so many things to chat about, a long time has passed since we had last seen each other.
I told her that I had fully embraced my female side. B. was very excited about that and suggested that I should dress female for the reunion party. I was very hesitant at first because I feared people would make fun of me. B. convinced me that it would be a great bold statement to make and fun to see for the more tolerant people.
So we had fun dressing me up as the girl that I am in my soul. We went to the party. Some people who had not seen me in a long time where pretty surprised about my outfit, if not to say shocked. Most liked it. I felt fine and we were having fun. I can understand that it is a bit weird for some guys to see their old classmate in a feminine outfit. It would have been the total shocker if I would have also brought my boyfriend along, who is as old as their dads!
Needless to say, I stuck with B. for the largest part of the evening.
I was surprised myself when B. told me that she had homosexual interest herself and would love to kiss a girl. She grinned and it became apparent that she meant me. I kissed her but I thought it was just a joke. When B. stuck her tongue into my mouth for a deep french kiss it became clear that she wanted more than just making a joke. I told her that I had a boyfriend. B. laughed and said that he does not need to know. It was still a fun role play. Then I thought about the situation. I am freshly in love with a man. However, I am quite sure that he would not mind if I kissed my old friend again. So I did. We made out a little bit during the party, got a little bit drunk and then went home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At home, I realized that I had not given it much thought to where B. would sleep in my small apartment. My mattress is a bit wider so I can have lovers stay overnight, but especially due to that association I felt awkward having B. sleep next to me. I suggested I sleep in the corridor and B. sleeps on the mattress, but B. laughed and said I am being silly, there is space for both of us on the mattress. I didn’t even have a second blanket.
Ok, we both got under the one blanket and B. immediately jumped on me and started to make out. I obliged but B. was really horny and told me should get naked now. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings so I got naked, too, wondering where this would lead to.
We kissed again and I got to play with her breasts. I kissed her nipple until they were erect. This is my favorite part of being with a woman. I like the breasts, everything else scares me a little bit.
B. started to fondle my penis. She sucked it a little bit and I had an erection. B. was happy that I could get stiff with her and asked me to penetrate her. I refused because I am gay and do not want to penetrate women. That is the scariest part for me. I really did not want to do that again. As much as I like B., this was a favor I was unwilling to do for my friend.
B. insisted that I would then at least have to give her oral satisfaction. I told her that I don’t really know how to do that with a woman. B. countered that she would teach me properly. So I went between her legs and she guided me to her clitoris and taught me the proper technique. Once I halfway knew what I was doing, we switched into a 69 position.
B. was good at sucking cock, I eventually ejaculated. I am proud that I also got B. to have an orgasm by my oral stimulation. I don’t know what happened to my sperm, I can hardly believe B. swallowed it but neither the mattress nor the blanket was wet afterward.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, we were just friends again, we only kissed once in the morning. We met up with my boyfriend. B. was still confused that I am into really old guys. I think she has seen my first boyfriend before she went to France but she still does not get what the attraction is for me.
I confessed to my boyfriend what we had done and he only laughed at it and said that we should have invited him to join the fun. B. seemed to be a bit shocked at that suggestion.
B. kissed me goodbye at the airport in front of my boyfriend and thanked me for having her. I hope I will see her again soon! On the way home, my boyfriend made no fuss about anything. We had not discussed having an open relationship, but from his behavior, I can tell that he is fine to have it open.
That is great, it grants us more freedom and I like my boyfriends to have sex with other men.
I gave him a long sensual blowjob as a reward for his tolerance.
I have texted with B. after the weekend and I am sure we will stay friends and maybe even cuddle again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend was fine with it, I think he even got a bit aroused by it. We had great sex after he met B.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? connecting with a friend
learning how to orally please a woman and be successful at it
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? maybe for B, that I did not penetrate her.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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