What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 65
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Singapore
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? countless
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? a few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Meeting almost every day for nearly two weeks now. She is young and beautiful. Perfect, and with a personality to match.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I saw her ad on a website. Many positive reviews. Decided to visit her and the first time, I was blown away by the experience even though I had been with so many other professionals before.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first couple of visits she gave me massages followed by happy endings. Subsequently, we dispensed with the massage altogether, preferring to spend the time talking, kissing and making torrid love. We experiment with costume play and food sex, and I love going down on her — she gets high in no time at all, and that is a wonderful experience for me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I think about her all the time. I try to meet her as often as I can. I don’t see any future with her — she goes back to China in a few months time…. I am just living in the moment, experiencing the joys of connecting with such a lovely lass for as long as it lasts….
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have never talked about this to anyone else
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The emotional connection I established with her.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Sometimes she tries her best to make me orgasm, but I just couldn’t do it. For me, if it happens, it happens but it’s not really important.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s paid sex — something which I am quite familiar with. But this time my emotional connections with her are immensely powerful.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think humans and monogamy are a good fit. My spouse would never agree though I haven’t had sex with her for a few years now because she is in poor health.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great idea, and a good read.
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