What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Lunch Break Sex with Taken Coworker
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Start of an affair
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? About a year ago, she started working at my job. We did not talk much back then. She’s a mother of two in a long-term relationship. I discovered later that she’s unhappy with her boyfriend. We have the same age, she has brown hair, a really nice body. She’s shy with other colleagues but not with me. She knows how to dress and look good. Compared to my girlfriend, I find her really delicate and feminine. My girlfriend, on the other hand, became more like a guy friend or roommate, if you know what I mean. My coworker and I started interacting a bit more but I did not know her really well.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was asked to train her for various tasks. We spent a lot of time for a few months. Talking about everything, our lives, herself, myself. She asked questions about me, I asked questions about her. But I did not feel anything romantic or anything. But I did not notice that we were flirting.
One day, I received a text from her saying that if we were both single, she would be really interested in me. At first, I felt bad about it. But the more we talked, the more we saw each other at work, the more I noticed that she was really fine and totally my kind.
For months, we talked at work, we texted each other. She was getting really flirty when texting but she was shy in person. Our eyes began to lock when we talked to each other and talking to her at her desk made me hard. Sometimes, she wanted me to come by her office because she needed help with her computer but I knew this was bullshit and she just wanted to be with me. At her desk, I would gently put my hand over her hand and move the mouse. Our knees would rub against each other. She would approach me for various reasons. My arm would feel her breasts. When I masturbated at home, all I could think about was her. It would make me cum prematurely.
One day, she asked me if I wanted to go to McDonald’s to get something for lunch. Sure. “Let’s take my car”. I hopped in and a few minutes later, we arrived at the restaurant. Parking was full,drive-thru was full. I said let’s go to another restaurant then. She said “I have pizza leftovers at home. You wanna come?” I said sure!. She drove for about 2 minutes and we arrived at her place. When she unlocked her front door, I knew what was coming.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once she opened the door, she took her sandals off. I started taking my shoes off but she put her hands on my torso and started kissing me. Tongue action. Her hands touched my butt. I touched her, it felt so good. I grabbed her boobs then she began taking my pants down. I removed her shirt and put my hand inside her camisole to touch her stomach. She had a beautiful flat belly. I grabbed her breats and she started jerking off my penis. A few seconds later, we were both completely naked, she started licking my dick for a few seconds and I took her with me on the couch. I took my finger to her vagina and it was WET.
She climbed on top of me, took my dick in her hands and guided it to her vagina. Started riding my dick while putting one hand on my pecs and the other on my abs. This was the most intense feeling that I ever had. We kissed continuously with tongue and I came inside her after a quick ride. I rubbed her clit shortly afterwards and she came. We hugged and we continued kissing after we were done.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cleaned up, we dressed up and ate that slice of pizza. We went back to the office and everything was back to normal, just like in the morning.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Two things. This was the first time I cheated on my girlfriend. We argue almost every day. She’s a fine woman, she’s a good mother but I don’t think we are in love anymore. I regret doing it because I’m positive I want to be with my coworker and she wants the same.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? This was the most satisfying sex I ever had. All the sexual tension between us finally broke free in an hour.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I want more.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I don’t feel that bad about cheating. Everyone gotta have their own secrets.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This was a great experience. I do feel a bit bad about being unfaithful but I have to have my own secrets.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I felt free. I mean sexuality is something but when you’re in a relationship, I don’t think you should keep it for only one person in your life.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is awesome. I wanted a place to share my experience and this was the best place without being judged by others.
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