What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s VERY hot. Like, out-of-my-league, movie-star-looking, twinkly-eyed kind of hot. I didn’t know him very well, just enough to know we were looking for the same thing. We met online and we hit it off pretty much immediately.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was the second time I was going to his house. The first time, we talked for less than five minutes and fucked for about an hour, and that was it. He didn’t put in much effort (only vaginal penetrative sex, after I went down on him. He didn’t go down on me or even finger me). After that incident, we’d sexted for a while and decided to meet again.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So this was the second time. I went over, and he told me he was tired. I didn’t know what this meant, exactly, but I took off my coat and just stood there for a second, and then he grabbed me and took my shirt off. Okay, that was kinda hot because he was fondling my breasts and it felt nice. Then, without so much as a decent make out session, he asked me to go down on him. For some reason, I obliged. He came, I swallowed, and then he just sat there. No move to reciprocate or anything. Then he says, “shut the door on your way out.”
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I do the really want to do it again. The first time, the sex felt good, but that’s because he has a nice cock and he’s REALLY hot. I convinced myself that I really loved it, and so I went again. But I don’t know, I think I’m lying to myself because he’s literally the hottest person I’ve ever fucked.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. They want me to stop seeing him.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because he doesn’t give a fuck. All he wants is to get off and a handful of tits, and I don’t want to fuck someone who doesn’t want to get me off.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He’s hot. That’s it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He’s not that great in bed…
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s very important. To me, at least. Sex is an important part of my life, and I don’t NEED love to have it. I enjoy casual sex as long as there are no emotional obligations. I think society should really stop seeing sex – casual or otherwise – as dirty. It’s a beautiful, natural thing. It should be treated as such.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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