by Dira

Gender: Female
Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Romania
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Freelancer
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Fais ton nid chez moi / Make Your Nest With Me

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Flamish speaking designer in Brussels. Looked cool with fashion glasses. Early thirties.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was in my early twenties as exchange student in Belgium and very bored. I posted an ad online that I was looking for friends. I got hundreds of answers from all kind of guys. I picked some best looking ones and I started email conversations. This designer guy was in the process of divorce and seemed very kind. I accepted to meet him in a public square.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met in a central place and had a very nice conversation about my studies in social sciences, about his job as a designer, about the traumatic divorce he was going through. After a couple of hours he proposed to marry me: just to get married, for me to have a place with him and for the rest I would be free to do whatever I wanted with my life. As we were speaking French, he kept on looking straight into my eyes telling me ”Fais ton nid chez moi” / Make your nest with me. At this point I felt touched and held his hand with sympathy. He started kissing my hand and then all over. Although we were in a public square it seemed ok to be in each other’s arms. He started caressing me all over, I was feeling good and sexually aroused. He put his hand under my clothes and expertly touched my clit to the point I had an orgasm right there, on a bench in a public square at dusk. The next thing I remember is being in my room after several hours of sex, being tired. It was all great, romantic French in my ear about how fabulous I am. He noticed I am tired and asked if I am fine. I said I need to sleep. He asked if he can continue on his own and ejaculate over me when he is done. I was horrified and said no. I explained I am sorry, i am not experienced and his speed and energy is overwhelming me.  After a short sleep, I woke him up and politely but firmly pushed him out of the bed and the house.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had too many. I do not remember about the partner, he was unstoppable.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Boredom; checking my attractiveness.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I half regretted it, half was very grateful for his overwhelming attention. Right then I did not want to ever see him again. 15 years later I understand his perspective and feel sorry for the way I behaved.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To the guy I married in the end. He laughed and said I was a jerk with the poor divorcing guy.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope. I regret I did not express any gratitude toward him.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I felt like an adored goddess. I wanted though him to stop, my genitals felt numb from over stimulation.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Maybe the Flamish designer from Brussels reads this story. If so: many, many thanks for this experience and for the overwhelming affection. Sorry I was very young and not used to sex. As a mature woman I remember the night very dearly 🙂
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