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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? HR Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual

Married Co-Worker

How long ago did this hookup happen? Past month

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was more than 15 years older than me; happily married with kids; tall; extremely good looking; had salt and pepper hair and a stubble beard. We were really good friends since I started working fresh out from college; I got to know him and actually liked him a lot. He smells so good, the kind that just makes you horny right away. I’ve been wanting to do it with him ever since I laid eyes on him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were assigned a project out of town. We had drinks at the bar and had a long conversation about anything under the sun. We got a little closer, I stared in his eyes then leaned in to kiss him. After that he just smiled and we continued talking for a short while. He walked me back to my room then I asked him if he wanted to come in.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once we got in the room, we talked a little then started kissing again. Afterwards, I went to the bathroom to wash my lady parts just to make sure I was clean down there. Didn’t want to risk him being turned off. Good thing my silk night gown and matching underwear was in the bathroom so I got to change my outfit. Went out wearing it and he looked surprised and pretty pleased. Kissed him some more and took off his clothes while I was on top of him. Kissed his neck then worked my way down to his package. Gave him a blowjob until he came then we switched positions. He removed my gown and started kissing my neck, breasts, sucked on my nipples for a long time then gave me oral. He was very sweet and gentle, and he really took his time. He also started fingering me while licking my vagina. I had an orgasm. He then entered me slowly. It was actually pretty intimate. Lasted for an hour, just talking in between. When I woke up, he left the room already but messaging me that he needed to take a shower and get dressed for our meeting.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were mature about it. We didn’t really talk about it during the day. We were normal as if nothing happened but at night we had sex again. We decided to stop once we were back in the city. I still feel strongly about him. Whenever I see him I just remember how great he was in bed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends who I don’t work with

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Got to experience what it felt like having him inside me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It had to end

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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