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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles, CA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Married Couple adding a Third
How long ago did this hookup happen? About a Year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The first was my wife of twenty years Emily (not her real name). She is a pretty brunette the same age as me, fit with a large pair of D cups. We met as college freshman and were friends but didn’t start sleeping together and become a couple until sophomore year and we married about a year after that. We have two kids together, one grown and one about to be. I am deeply in love with her.
The other I will call Kim. She is a blonde in her mid twenties also with D cups and she is quite fit. She is also a bit of a nerd, first time we met she had her hair loosely down and glasses on and a sweater on. I met her at the coffee shop one morning and thought she was cute and suggested her to my wife.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This part requires some background. First my wife and I live a vibrant and active sex life. We have sex frequently and in different places and positions to keep things interesting even though we have been married twenty years. Emily recently got a tummy tuck and a boob job and often works out to keep my interest which has kept me from having a wandering eye all these years. Before her I was with only one other girl.
Emily and I always talk about trying new things in the bedroom and we made a decision that we wanted to try adding a third. We decided we wanted another woman and someone a bit younger than us. We had several ads up online and even met one girl that way but there was no chemistry. Emily also brought another girl home from the gym but again there was no sexual interest.
I met Kim one morning getting coffee, her card didn’t work so I paid for it. She sat with me and we talked and she was shy but a bit flirty. I began to find myself imagining what she might look like naked. I texted my wife a quick picture when she wasn’t looking and she said maybe.
We ended up inviting Kim to dinner at our place and Emily wore a short, low cut dress and Kim was dressed conservatively. Kim was a bit shy at dinner but we learned she was recently single and new to the city. Emily was pretty flirty with her but Kim didn’t seem to notice or that Emily was eying her like a side of meat.
After dinner we ended up asking Kim into the hot tub. Emily put on a tiny bikini and Kim a conservative suit again. We talked in the tub and Emily asked Kim about the tattoos she had. I finally made a move and kissed Kim and we ended up making out a bit. Emily did the same and I enjoyed watching my wife kiss another woman. While the hot tub is fun to get clothes off and make out in, it is not very practical for sex so we asked Kim to the bedroom
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took her swimsuit off and Kim and I ended up making out on the bed naked for a bit. Despite the fact she had been the one to suggest the threesome and how she was acting it took some coaxing to get Emily to join us and she made out with us both. I sucked on Kim’s breasts and fingered her a bit and then I ended up penetrating Kim and we both got pretty loud and ended up pulling out and finishing inside Emily doggie style.
I ended up having to get up and use the bathroom and the women made out and fingered each other a bit and taking turns sucking on each other’s boobs. I joined them after a bit and we took turns sucking on each other and at one point Kim was being eaten out and sucking cock at the same time. We kind of made her the center of attention and we all came several times before falling asleep. There wasn’t a lot of talking but we learned this was a first for Kim too.
I awoke in the morning and heard the shower going. Kim was in there and I joined her and we started kissing and the hot water and the steam coming off her tight body was too much and I spun her around and penetrated her again until we both came. Afterwards dressed and kissed me goodbye and told me to let Emily she had really enjoyed herself.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Emily and i both enjoyed ourselves and we decided to ask Kim to join us again and it became a regular thing. We have also both enjoyed sleeping with Kim separately and i have developed strong feelings for her. Kim recently joined us for a weekend away and we all shared a bed for the weekend. Kim also dresses different for us, recently i saw her go out in a low cut top and short skirt. We are talking about having her move in when my younger daughter leaves for college next summer.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We havn’t told anyone and if Kim does move in it will be to an aparment above our garage for apperances sake and honestly we don’t our kids to find out
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex with someone new with my wife involved
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we have to keep it secret
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before this i thought i was only meant to have sex with only one other person my entire life and i was ok with that. A threesome is not for every couple but it works for us and we can also both sleep with Kim separatly.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Not sure i agree that there is any such thing as casual sex, i have only ever had sex with my high school girlfirend, my wife which i planned on just having fun and that turned to marriage and Kim is pretty much another member of the couple now.
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