What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 74
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA Los Angeles CA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Entrepreneur
What’s your current relationship status? My 63 year-old ex-girlfriend is still living with me because she refuses to move out and I am too old to go through the trauma and negativity of forcing her to leave. Currently she agreed to pay rent but never does.
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
The Masturbation Experience at 74
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? I was clear to the woman that I was not available for a committed relationship
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met an attractive, intelligent, sensual 56 year-old woman at a political event. I am 74, look like 60 and still think I am 25.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She gave me her phone number at the political event and I took her to dinner a few days later.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the third date we went back to her house and had a discussion about relationships. I was clear that I was not interested in getting involved on a committed one-on-one. Then we started kissing and that led to me feeling her up. As I lifted her dress I discovered she was not wearing any panties. To understand where I am coming from requires we back up for a minute. My ex-girlfriend (the one that refuses to move out) and I haven’t had intercourse because it is too painful for her. However we are still sexually attracted to each other. The sexual attraction led me to play with her pussy and one day I noticed that when I played (massaged) her with my fingers right above the g-spot (not inside), I could feel the blood pulsating/throbbing in my hands and it turned me on because my hands were giving her orgasms. I wanted to find out if other women would do the same thing when I played/massaged their pussy. Back to the 56 year-old. Her body had the same reaction to me playing/masturbating her and she had over 10 orgasms. But then things got out of hand because I refused to fuck her. There are not options for the next two questions. My answers are close but not correct as you will see when you read what happened after.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? As I stated earlier she got angry and very aggressive when I refused to have intercourse with her. I tried to explain that I made it clear to her before I gave her 10 orgasms that I was not available for a committed relationship and I was mystified why she would be angry when she got the benefit of the experience. She stated that I didn’t understand women and that NO woman would want to get orgasms if the man would not fuck her. I have interviewed 3 women and only 1 woman agreed with her, i.e.. that for a woman getting orgasms without fucking isn’t what they would like.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? See the description. I made it clear that this would not about a committed relationship before we started.
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I interviewed 3 women after to see if her reaction made sense, i.e. that she would be angry at me when she got the 10 orgasms.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? She is stalking and threatening me.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to feel the blood pulsating/throbbing above a woman’s g-spot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She is stalking and threatening me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Thinking about why I want to experience playing with a woman’s pussy reminds me of when I was a teenager and several girls would play with my penis and give me orgasms. I never understood at the time why they would do it since we didn’t have intercourse and I didn’t touch them. Now I can see why they did it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? N/A
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Looking forward to getting feedback
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