by Drunk girl

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: British/Caucasian
Current location: England
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Soon to be uni student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Curly brown hair and doe eyes (to which I repeatedly drunkenly told my friends that he looked like a certain famous musician- he didn’t, AT ALL). He was two years older than me and the uni flatmate of my friend’s boyfriend who a group of us had gone out to a bar with- first met him that night at their university flat before heading out for the night. I had no feelings towards him before the hookup as I didn’t know him, but remember thinking how smiley and friendly he was.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The whole group ended up in a club in the city which did pretty cheap drinks so I got drunk fairly quickly. I spent most of the night with my friend (the girlfriend of said guy’s flatmate), but we returned to the main group where I got chatting to the guy (we’ll call him curly hair) and decided I was attracted to him. We were all staying at the uni flat as the majority of the group live outside of the city, and on the walk back he gave me his jacket and I remember holding hands. Now…… I did not consciously plan on sleeping with him as I was a virgin at the time. Once back at the flat we were all pretty tired and realized that there was not enough beds/sofas/floor space for everyone to stay. Me and my friend considered sleeping on the kitchen table until her boyfriend told her he’d found some room for them to sleep, to which she told me to go find somewhere. So I ended up knocking on his room door asking if I could sleep in there, which ended up with me in his bed. I can’t remember the details but I think I had drunkenly decided that I was ready to lose my virginity.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal. It hurt at first- I don’t think he knew I was a virgin. We ended up switching so that I was on top which I preferred way more. I remember he kept on apologizing saying he hadn’t had sex in a while, which was when I went on top. We didn’t talk but he was pretty noisy. Ended with us falling asleep together.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? He did but I didn’t.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom- he nearly started without one until I said I wouldn’t without. We didn’t discuss STI history

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Drunk, curious and sick of being a virgin

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes- both drunk

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up in the morning and suddenly started to look for my clothes- he woke up at this point and asked if I wanted to stay for breakfast. I think I was so shocked with myself that I just wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible- so quickly that I ended up putting on his trainers instead of mine (despite his being four sizes too big), waking up my friend and her boyfriend and telling them we needed to leave asap!

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend and her boyfriend both bombarded me with questions on the train home, and I kept quiet for about ten minutes until I told them- my friend definitely did not expect it from me and we spent the journey laughing about how random it all was

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. I had been sexually curious for a long time beforehand and didn’t want to wait for a new relationship to lose my virginity.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was trying out being on top, worst was the mixed feelings about it in the morning and feeling slightly ashamed and eventually feeling resentful towards people who lost their virginity to a long term partner.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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