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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? CR
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? No idea
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Me And My Straight Best Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my best friend from years ago. He was about 6” tall with dark skin, and a beautiful, muscled body. We were 17 at the time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was one night at a party. I didn’t want to go home so he invited me to his place. We slept on the same bed and we were kind of wasted. We started talking about stuff and somehow we started joking about our dick sizes. Next thing I know, he put his hand through my boxers and started to jerk me off. For a moment, I didn’t know what to do and then I asked him what was he doing. He just said: shhhhh!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He kept jerking me for a while and then said my dick was dry and to spit on it. I did so on mine and then did it on his and started to jerk him off as well. After a while, he asked me to suck his dick. I wasn’t very excited but still did it because he said he would do it to me too. After a while, I asked him to suck mine. We did some kind of 69. Then I let go and carried on with myself, but he asked me to suck him again. It was less than a minute before he came in my mouth without saying anything. I sucked him dry while I touched his ass and then we went to sleep.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, he didn’t mention anything, but he was well aware of what had happened. Nobody has said anything and until this very day, nobody has ever heard this story

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Power / Dominance, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? My friendship changed

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experience

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Friendship

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I want to repeat it and I believe my friend wants it too.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? More freedom

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Pro

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