What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Chicago
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Government
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Meeting the Legend
How long ago did this hookup happen? Month of January
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was mixed Mexican/Italian in her mid 30’s. I was introduced at a party and had never hooked up with her before. Moment I met her and heard the stories I knew I wanted to get together.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Two days later I reached out to her. we arranged to go work out together and I instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Lot of foreplay which led to oral and vaginal. Kink involved was hair pulling, masturbation on her part. She was beyond a good lover and very submissive. It ended at her place.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I dropped her back at her car and reached out the next day. I had no expectations but sex with her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Power / Dominance
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends who knew her. They wanted her number
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing bad to say
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. It has played a significant role in my life.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting
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