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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 58
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? I am seeing other men because my husband has ED
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Met A Man For Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last weekend

What was your relationship status at the time? Just started my current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Hopefully a regular thing

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Marcus is a man that I met on a website. I guess we started out in the usual way because I’ve never done this before. We texted each other for about a month, learning about each other. I told him exactly why I was looking for someone. My husband has CAD and ED, that I thought that I could manage doing it other ways but found that I needed human penetration and all that goes with it. I also explained that me seeing someone was a mutual agreement between my husband and myself, that it would not involve any kinky stuff my husband. He understood his limitations, what he wanted was for me to be happy. (as sappy as that sounds).
I guess that I impressed Marcus with my candid remarks. That I was looking for a man to have sex with and not a relationship. That I wanted someone that was virile, good looking, respectful and most important discreet. Then we exchanged some photos. This really bothered me, I consider myself good looking and getting a selfie that flattered me was difficult. Also hearing horror stories of people sending fake or doctored photos, it made me rather apprehensive. The pictures that he sent me got me very interested as he was tall, slim, and well endowed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We did do any planning until we Skyped. I guess that is when we both trusted each other. We agreeded to meet at a motel about halfway, which suited me well as it was about a 5 hour trip and the chances of seeing anyone I know was practically zero.
I got there, checked into a very nice room, I thought what the hell I might as well go all out, besides if it all turned out to be a dud, then I’d just have a relaxing vacation.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at the bar, I was anxious. The most amazing thing happened, almost as soon as he introduced himself, I felt comfortable with him. We didn’t even talk about why we were there. Our conversation was about things we were passionate about. We both had a few drinks and I was very relaxed and I believe that I suggested we go back to the room.
We held hands as we walked, and once back in the room we kissed. I have to say now I was extremely turned on, because we were going at it so slowly. I thought that I’d be a lot more reserved but once we finally got naked, I felt like a teenager on a date. Starting out kissing, exploring each other’s bodies then giving each other oral. Marcus really didn’t need it to get him erect, but I once I saw and touched that pole, I couldn’t stop. His cock was a two hander, and fat, I really had to stretch my lips around it and his oozing pre-cum was so tasty.
He had no sooner given me an orgasm, when he spread my legs and rubbed that magnificent cock on my lips and slowly started to push it in. I’d thought that I’d have to put lube on but he entered me slowly and teasingly. I do not know how many slow shallow strokes he gave me but that first long push made me orgasm again, I do know that I wrapped my legs around him and pulled him tight inside me and just enjoyed the waves of pleasure.
When I felt he was close to cumming I know that I interlocked my legs with his and met each of his strokes. He grunted like an animal and I was vocal too. I was holding on to him tight, wanting that feeling of cock going soft inside me, also I didn’t want him to see my tears as I was laughing and crying.
After we rested awhile we fucked again and again. I hadn’t had penetrative sex in over five years, honestly it was like I’d been in a desert and now I found water. We did not get out of bed till morning. We were both starving, we jumped in the shower to clean up and ended up having sex one more time. Then had breakfast in the lobby, back in the room, we lay in the Jacuzzi, kissing, caressing each other. Honestly could not keep my hands off of his dick.
We continued to have sex until checkout. I never would have imagined that I’d have been as sad at that good by as I was.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had our good byes. As it was our first meeting, neither of us had thought about what comes next, but we have promised each other that we will make some arrangements for meeting again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only on this forum. I am thinking of telling my BFF, mostly for advice as she is so much more experienced than I am.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex of course. I hadn’t realized what I’d been missing for so long.
My husband did not quiz me at all, he was “business as normal” when I got home. Which made the experience all the better because it was mine alone.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I have a deep love for my husband and I was hesitant about this arrangement at first. I was a little scared how much feelings I had for Marcus. I thought that I’d be able to compartmentalize this whole episode easily, but I find myself looking forward to the next rendezvous.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was hesitant about this change in our relationship. Because of his medication and condition those miracle blue pills will not work for him. I thought that I could live in a sexless marriage, after all I wasn’t the most accommodating partner when I started menopause, in fact I avoided sex every chance I could. I guess that is why I never considered divorce because he stuck by me during that time, and am fortunate indeed that he loves me so much. I was angry at first because he seemed to accept his condition so easily. At first I wasn’t so gung-ho about all of this, now discovering how the both of us can handle, I almost wish that I hadn’t put it off so long.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? What Marcus gave me was much more than great sex, It filled a large void that was in my life.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish that I could be more open about the decisions my husband and I made together. I will admit that meeting clandestinely certainly spiced up the whole experience, I know that I wasn’t sneaking but it felt like it and made it more erotic.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I find that it is a great forum to discover alternatives to live and that other people are out there experimenting rather than trying to live uncomfortably in how society thinks you should live. I think that it has saved my marriage. it is one of the reasons that I took a leap.

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